Quotes About Growth

people procrastinate or self-sabotage as a way to stave off change — even positive change — because they're reluctant to give something up without knowing what they'll get in its place.

The only way out is through." The only way to get to the other side of the tunnel is to go through it, not around

Often, though, people carry around the belief that the majority of their problems are circumstantial or situational—which is to say, external. And if the problems are caused by everyone and everything else, by stuff out there, why should they bother to change themselves?

Sometimes I wonder, Who am I to make the important decisions in my own life? Am I really qualified for this? Everyone wages this internal battle to some degree: Child or adult? Safety or freedom? But no matter where people fall on those continuums, every decision they make is based on two things: fear and love. Therapy strives to teach you how to tell the two apart.

I remember a quote from Einstein: "No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it." I've always felt that made sense, but, like most of us, I also believe that I should be able to think my way out of my problem by going over and over how I thought myself into it.

philosopher Johann Wolfgang von Goethe succinctly summarized this sentiment: "Too many parents make life hard for their children by trying, too zealously, to make it easy for them.

But sometimes without realizing it, we are choosing to be in relationships with people who fit into an old story, or we are choosing to respond to them based on an unhealthy script.

As the late psychotherapist John Weakland famously said, "Before successful therapy, it's the same damn thing over and over. After

Because therapists know that at first, each patient is simply a snapshot, a person captured in a particular moment. It's like a photo of you taken from an unfortunate angle and with a sour expression on your face. There might also be a photo in which you're glowing, caught opening a present or mid-laugh with a lover. Both are you in that fraction of time, and neither is you in your entirety.

You're going to have to feel pain—everyone feels pain at times—but you don't have to suffer so much.

Therapists will be supportive, but our support is for your growth, not for your low opinion of your partner.

The things we protest against the most are often the very things we need to

Why Italian? In order to develop another pair of eyes, in order to experiment with weakness

We must be willing to fall flat on our faces. Fearlessly putting ourselves out there is simply a required part of the process. At the very least, it results in the gift of humility and, at best, the triumph of our human spirit.

Take the next little step-the smaller you make it, the more likely you'll take it..

Our losses become the road maps for our future.

There are certain things in life for which we can never be prepared.

Dr. Kat Domingo proclaims, "Enlightenment is not a process of learning, it is a process of unlearning.

must be willing to give up what I am in order to become what I will be.

The most important thing she'd learned over the years was that there was no way to be a perfect mother and a million ways to be a good one.

We have hands that must work, brains that must think, and personalities that must be developed.

Every day we do things that are capable of changing everything, and that's what makes life exciting.

I'm going to do better than that.' An adrenalin rush of determination accompanied her words. 'I'm going to find out why he is the way he is, and make his life better.

Well that's because I wasn't always like this.' Henrietta paused, examining her knuckles. 'I built a wall around myself.