Quotes About Growth

For the rest of your life, you must work every day at your marriage for it to be rewarding and healthy.

need to say something like this to our spouses if there is going to be a genuine atmosphere of truth and openness: "Honey, I want to be the best spouse I can be, and I want our marriage to grow. I want you to know that if there is anything I'm doing or not doing that is bothering you, I want you to share it with me. I may not agree with everything you say, but I will validate it, and we will talk things out.

Live your life by doing activities that are beneficial

O mais importante e bonito, do mundo, é isto: que as pessoas não estão sempre iguais, ainda não foram terminadas – mas que elas vão sempre mudando. (...) Natureza da gente não cabe em nenhuma certeza.

Todos estão loucos, neste mundo? Porque a cabeça da gente é uma só, e as coisas que há e que estão para haver são demais de muitas, muito maiores diferentes, e a gente tem de necessitar de aumentar a cabeça, para o total. Todos os sucedidos acontecendo, o sentir forte da gente — o que produz os ventos. Só se pode viver perto de outro, e conhecer outra pessoa, sem perigo de ódio, se a gente tem amor.

quando é que a velhice começa, surgindo de dentro da mocidade.

Writing a dissertation is very much like being in a long-term relationship: there are likely to be some very good times and some perfectly dreadful ones, and it's a big help if you like what you've chosen.

In fact I no longer value this kind of memento. I no longer want reminders of what was, what got broken, what got lost, what got wasted. There was a period, a long period, dating from my childhood until quite recently, when I thought I did. A period during which I believed that I could keep people fully present, keep them with me, by preserving their mementos, their things, their totems.

from On Keeping a Notebook]: It is a good idea to keep in touch, and I suppose that keeping in touch is what notebooks are all about…I think we are well advised to keep on nodding terms with the people we used to be, whether we find them attractive company or not…Remember what it was to be me: that is always the point.

The past could be jettisoned . . . but seeds got carried.

Time is the school in which we learn.  

When I began writing these pages I believed their subject to be children, the ones we have and the ones we wish we had, the ways in which we depend on our children to depend on us, the ways in which we encourage them to remain children, the ways in which they remain more unknown to us than they do to their more casual acquaintances; the ways in which we remain equally opaque to them.

In was raised to believe that what came in on the next roll would always be better than what went out on the last. I no longer believe that, but I am telling you how it was.

the revelation that the dream was teaching the dreamers how to live.

Time is the school in which we learn.

I did not want to finish the year because I know that as the days pass, as January becomes February and February becomes summer, certain things will happen.

I was raised to believe that what came in on the next roll would always be better than what went out on the last. I no longer believe that...

I think we are well advised to keep on nodding terms with the people we used to be, whether we find them attractive company or not.

Time is the school in which we learn, / Time is the fire in which we burn: Delmore Schwartz again.

Through most of my life I would have interpreted the growth of the prison system and the diminution of the commitment to public education as evidence of how California had changed. Only recently have I come to see them as quite the opposite, evidence of how California had not changed, and to understand change itself as one of the culture's most enduring misunderstandings about itself.

Water under the bridge and dynamite it behind you.

But perhaps it is presumptuous of me to assume that they will be missing something. Perhaps in retrospect this has been a story not about Sacramento at all, but about the things we lose and the promises we break as we grow older;

I have already lost touch with a couple of people I used to be.

Time is the school in which we learn, / Time is the fire in which we burn: Delmore Schwartz