Quotes About Growth

You can continue doing what you're doing for a long time. But you'll never become the person you want to be.

We can't admit that we need to change—either because we're unaware that a change is desirable, or, more likely, we're aware but have reasoned our way into elaborate excuses that deny our need for change.

The simplest tool I know to finding fulfillment is being open to fulfillment.

If she wants to be a great leader, she will need to "make peace" with watching what she says and observing how she acts—for the rest of her career.

Getting better is its own reward. If we do that, we can never feel cheated.

change is not a one-way street.

It takes extraordinary effort to stop doing something in our comfort zone (because it's painless or familiar or mildly pleasurable) in order to start something difficult that will be good for us in the long run.

Everyone around you has to recognize that you're changing. Relying on other people increases the degree of difficulty exponentially.

You can see how, over time, it would be easy for each of us to cross the line and begin to make a virtue of our flaws—simply because the flaws constitute what we think of as "me.

But there's a difference between being an achiever and a leader. Successful people become great leaders when they learn to shift the focus from themselves to others.

The pain that comes with regret should be mandatory, not something to be shooed away like an annoying pet. When we make bad choices and fail ourselves or hurt the people we love, we should feel pain. That pain can be motivating and in the best sense, triggering—a reminder that maybe we messed up but we can do better. It's one of the most powerful feelings guiding us to change.

Feedback—both the act of giving it and taking it—is our first step in becoming smarter, more mindful about the connection between our environment and our behavior. Feedback teaches us to see our environment as a triggering mechanism. In some cases, the feedback itself is the trigger.

Your people are changing constantly and it's right in front of your eyes. If you don't change accordingly, you may as well be managing with your eyes wide shut. That's the most unforgivable prejudice of all.

Once people reach the age of accountability, no matter what people do to them," he said, "that is not an excuse for any mistakes they make. On the other hand, one does seek to understand why he or she makes the mistakes they make.

If I change I am "inauthentic." Many of us have a misguided belief that how we behave today not only defines us but represents our fixed and constant selves, the authentic us forever. If we change, we are somehow not being true to who we really are. This belief triggers stubbornness. We refuse to adapt our behavior to new situations because "it isn't me.

Mike thought a minute, and then said, "I'm going to change, and the reason I'm going to change has nothing to do with money and it has nothing to do with this firm. I'm going to change because I have two sons, and if they were receiving this same feedback from you in twenty years, I'd be ashamed.

The next time you hear yourself saying, "I'm just no good at . . . ," ask yourself, "Why not?

Understanding the past is perfectly admissible if your issue is accepting the past. But if your issue is changing the future, understanding will not take you there. My experience tells me that the only effective approach is looking people in the eye and saying, "If you want to change, do this.

Apology is where behavioral change begins.

No matter what someone tells him, he accepts it by reminding himself, "I won't learn less." What that means is when somebody makes a suggestion or gives you ideas, you're either going to learn more or learn nothing. But you're not going to learn less. Hearing people out does not make you dumber. So, thank them for trying to help.

We can always get better at something, even if it's just preserving the progress we've made. I

Not all of us require a violent life-threatening knock on the head to change our behavior. It only seems that way.

The Four Commitments. I need them to commit to: 1. Let go of the past. 2. Tell the truth. 3. Be supportive and helpful—not cynical or negative. 4. Pick something to improve yourself—so everyone is focused more on "improving" than "judging.

a changing environment changes us. The