Quotes About Conflict

The only reason I didn't kill my parents is because I did not want to spend my life in prison.

Screw you, John." "Sorry, Sylvie. Can't—they frown on that kind of thing between step-siblings.

You have a funny way of showing how much you don't like me." "I don't like gophers, either, but I wouldn't leave one to suffer. I'd shoot it to put it out of its misery.

But why on earth not? What has got into you?" "Rowena—dear God, do you take me for a man of steel? Or not as a man at all? Don't you realize what it means to see you every day, to be constantly with you, knowing that you are promised to my uncle and that I can never possess you?" "I'm sorry, Mark. I hadn't thought—that is, I thought you had forgotten all about your infatuation for me.

She stated that the oversight of the Sperres was a very dark chapter: "The Germans threw us a bone and watched with great pleasure how the Jews fought over it among one another.

Svetlana's responses to her mother would always swing, unresolved, between sentimental idealizations and bitter anger.

Svanidze had been "deranged" by his multiple imprisonments and was impossible to live with. According to Lily, he had become paranoid about his own Jewish origins and removed all his Jewish mother's portraits from the walls. And he hated Svetlana's son because Joseph was half Jewish.

Do not be doing that for me," Osca said, "for if it were you lying there, and I standing over you, do you think it's one tear I'd be weeping for you?" "I know well enough that you would not, for Dearmid O'Dyna stands between us even now," said Finn, "But as for me, I will weep for whom I choose to weep for!

Here is one with a gift for loving and a gift for hating, and when he hates, God help the man who earns his hatred.

We will never bring peace at the hands of war. As a species we have to rise above it.

beside her, Jake Silverman was fighting to pull away from

How many people still have that relationship with their ex, where you call each other up just to yell? It's like you're married: You're not having sex, and you're fighting.

Hate is usually a more compelling motive than love

Prince looked ready to slug me. I almost wished he would. Like most Americans, I was a counter-puncher.

Even with tear gas, tommy guns and a police cordon, there is no way to take a desperate man without risking your life.

War has rules, mud wrestling has rules - politics has no rules.

There are three options for dealing with those unsolved problems: Plan A refers to solving a problem unilaterally, through the imposition of adult will. Plan B involves solving a problem collaboratively. Plan C involves setting aside an unsolved problem, at least for now. If you intend to follow the guidance provided in this book, the Plans—especially Plan B—are your future.

He knows just what buttons to push. We should reword this one so it's more accurate: when he's having difficulty being flexible, dealing adaptively with frustration, and solving problems, he does things that are very maladaptive and that adults experience as being extremely unpleasant.

There are basically three options for handling unsolved problems. I call those options Plan A, Plan B, and Plan C. Plan A refers to solving a problem unilaterally. This is where adults decide upon and impose a solution. Plan B involves solving a problem collaboratively. And Plan C involves setting aside an unsolved problem

With Plan A, you're trying to solve the problem through the use of power. Power causes conflict. If you teach power, you'll get power back. In other words, being unilateral is a good way to get your kid to respond in kind.

Plan B consists of three steps, each containing ingredients that are crucial to the collaborative resolution of problems: the Empathy step, the Define Adult Concerns step, and the Invitation step.

Strategy #6: Making a discrepant observation. This is where you're making an observation that differs from information that the child has already provided in the Empathy step.

by making appropriate, corrective statements to set the record straight ("Dad, I don't think that's true at all"), a kid with concerning behaviors may not have those skills and may therefore become extremely frustrated in the face of these inaccuracies.

the solution must be realistic (meaning both parties can actually do what they're agreeing to do) and mutually satisfactory (meaning the solution truly and logically addresses the concerns of both parties).