Quotes About Conflict

In the context of marriage, if we do not feel loved, our differences are magnified. We come to view each other as a threat to our happiness. We fight for self-worth and significance, and marriage becomes a battlefield rather than a haven.

Sometimes our words say one thing, but our tone of voice says another.

An ancient sage once said, "A soft answer turns away anger." When your spouse is angry and upset and lashing out words of heat, if you choose to be loving, you will not reciprocate with additional heat but with a soft voice.

Anger, then, is the emotion that arises whenever we encounter what we perceive to be wrong. The emotional, physiological, and cognitive dimensions of anger leap to the front burner of our experience when we encounter injustice.

With empty love tanks, couples tend to argue and withdraw, and some may tend to be violent verbally or physically in their arguments. But when the love tank is full, we create a climate of friendliness, a climate that seeks to understand, that is willing to allow differences and to negotiate problems. I am convinced that no single area of marriage affects the rest of marriage as much as meeting the emotional need for love.

Angry people need someone who cares enough to listen long enough to understand the pain. They need someone who listens carefully enough to identify with the person's anger, wisely enough to express understanding, and courageously enough to respond with a gentle, truthful answer—an answer that seeks resolution of the issue that gave rise to the anger.

Busque o entendimento e a reconciliação, em vez de impor sua percepção pessoal como a única maneira lógica de interpretar a situação.

A hot-tempered person starts fights; a cool-tempered person stops them. —Proverbs 15:18

First, acknowledge the reality of anger. In the course of marriage, each of us will experience anger from time to time. Some of this anger will be definitive, spurred by wrong action on the part of the spouse. Some of this anger also will be distorted, stimulated by a misunderstanding of what happened. We will each experience a fair share of both types of anger. This is a part of being human and living life with each other.

Third, agree that verbal or physical explosions that attack the other person are not appropriate responses to anger.

Fifth, agree to seek a resolution.

we must choose our battles carefully. Some things are not worth fighting over, and some things are clearly not our battles.

But when Peter came to Antioch, I had to oppose him to his face, for what he did was very wrong. —Galatians 2:11

responses from a loving heart diffuse the most explosive situations. — Jeanette Gardner Littleton

If your child is using some of the negative behavioral responses to anger, such as pushing, shoving, and throwing objects, focus on the anger first and the behavior second. You might say, "It's obvious that you are very angry. I would like to hear what's bothering you, but we can't talk while you are _________. Would you like for us to take a walk and talk about it?

We know intellectually that we will eventually have differences. But we are certain that we will discuss those differences openly; one of us will always be willing to make concessions, and we will reach agreement.

Forgiveness presupposes that a wrong has been commmitted. Irritations do not call for forgiveness, rather they call for negotiations

Don't sin by letting anger control you." Don't let the sun go down while you are still angry. —Ephesians 4:26

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An ancient sage once said, "A soft answer turns away anger.

So you want to tell me what a sixth grader was doing in the eighth-grade side of the locker room, in a eighth-grade fight? he said. Winning, I said.

But I'm your brother." Daniel sounded genuinely wounded. "You," she announced, "are a turd in the punch bowl of life.

They say nature abhors a vacuum, but it doesn't like two take-charge personalities in the same vicinity either.

It was, all in all, a grand example of interspecies lack of cooperation and the further illustration that might makes right. I stayed in the rest area, in my car, for another half an hour, until everything had settled down, and saw who emerged as the victor. The bees kept the water fountain.