Quotes About Clarity

Arguing Without Understanding Is Unpersuasive

There's nothing wrong with having these rules. In fact, we need them to order our lives. But when you find yourself in conflict, it helps to make your rules explicit and to encourage the other person to do the same.

Be explicit about what you think the conversation is about, and be explicit about what would be most helpful to you. Then discuss and, if you each need something different, negotiate. Remember: Explicit disagreement is better than implicit misunderstanding. Explicit disagreement leads to clarity, and is the first step in each of you getting your differing needs met.

Ask Them to Paraphrase Back Paraphrasing the other person helps you check your understanding and helps them know you've heard. You can ask them to do the same thing for you: "Let me check to see if I'm being clear. Would you mind just playing back what you've heard me say so far?

So to clarify the feedback under the label we need to "be specific" about two things: (1) where the feedback is coming from, and (2) where the feedback is going.

Living in the answer, while forgetting the question that gave birth to it, will cause the answer to become mechanical, habitual, or dispirited. Conversely, living only in the question can lead to confusing or debilitating uncertainty and ambiguity. We need both.

Mientras más perfecto sea el instrumento en su pureza, es decir, mientras menos filtros interfieran en su trabajo, la Realidad se percibirá como es: un proceso carente de azar.

Ser impecable con tus palabras significa utilizar tu energía correctamente, en la dirección de la verdad y del amor por ti mismo. Si llegas a un acuerdo contigo para ser impecable con tus palabras, eso bastará para que la verdad se manifieste a través de ti y limpie todo el veneno emocional que hay en tu interior.

Feed the truth. Starve the lie.

Sometimes the questions are complicated and the answers are simple.

I meant what I said and I said what I meant. An elephant's faithful one-hundred percent!

There must only be two, No more and no less

E' caratteristico degli animi indeboliti vedere tutte le cose attraverso un velo: l'anima si crea da sè i suoi orizzonti, ed è lei che vi crea un cielo tempestoso

When I have a mission, it gives me something to focus on.

All generalizations are inaccurate, including this one.

Unless you love someone, nothing else makes any sense.

Having words and explanations for things is too modern

You can only see as far as your headlights, but you can make the whole trip that way.

Good explanations are like bathing suits, darling; they are meant to reveal everything by covering only what is necessary.

How do I know what I think until I see what I say?

Let yourself go. Pull out from the depths those thoughts that you do not understand, and spread them out in the sunlight and know the meaning of them.

write hard & clear about what hurts.

when you go over it, cut out everything you can. The main thing is to know what to leave out. The way you tell whether you're going good is by what you can throw away.

Ask yourself in the most silent hour of your night: must I write?" said Rilke.