Quotes About Relationship

Objectively" Stan was 100 percent right. At the same time, however, he was 100 percent tin-eared when it came to his wife's subjective experience. Worse, every time Lucy tried to tell him what bothered her, every time she tried to bridge the gap between them, Stan only retreated more staunchly into his precious rightness.

to move beyond some part of you, you must first get to know it and ultimately befriend it.

Our human brains—in fact, most mammals' brains—are built for co-regulation.

Us is the seat of closeness. You and me is the seat of adversarial contest. You and me is great when you are confronting a tiger, but less so when you are confronting your spouse, your boss, or your child.

in our reactions, we are not simple passengers. Over time, with training and practice, we can change our responses. We can shift from being reactive individuals to being proactive teammates who, in cooperation with our partner, intentionally shape the transaction between us.

We all know what fight looks like. As for flight, just a reminder that someone can sit inches away from another and still flee—they just do so internally. We call that stonewalling. Finally, the knee-jerk response of fixing is not the same as a mature, considered wish to work on the relationship. Adaptive Child fixers are fueled by an anxious, driven need to take anyone's tension away from them as quickly as possible. Their motto is "I'm upset until you're not.

My wife, the family therapist Belinda Berman

The bonds of silence and protection run deeper, for the moment, than his trust in me.

The difference between real acceptance and just backing away from an issue, or away from the whole relationship, is resentment.

The paradox of real love is that our capacity to sustain intimacy rests on our capacity to tolerate aloneness inside the relationship.

When a mother quarrels with a daughter, she has a double dose of unhappiness hers from the conflict, and empathy with her daughter's from the conflict with her. Throughout her life a mother retains this special need to maintain a good relationship with her daughter.

I'm glad my first date is with you, Nate," she said as we started out of the house. "In a lot of ways, it feels like coming home." "I was thinking the same thing.

We were meant to be together.

After a girl is grown, her little brothers — now her protectors — seem like big brothers.

A man and his art are like a fool and his king.

Some stand on tiptoe trying to reach God to talk — you try too hard, friend — drop to your knees and listen, he'll hear you better that way.

It's hard to defeat a woman in love.

We had arrived at a remarkable place in our relationship. Our trip to Lakefield had been one of the most special months of my entire life. The kids had a great time. We were all in the same place together, not only physically, but emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. We were all there.

Home didn't mean Oregon to me anymore. It meant, simply, by Steve's side.

God bless you, Stevo. I love you, mate.

a shuddering breath and moved to the side of the bed where a chair had been pulled up, most likely so that Ava, Dad's housekeeper, or Matt could sit with him. She was grateful neither was here now. She

Love is a passion for life shared with another person. You fall in love with a person who you think is wonderful. It's your deepest appreciation of the value of that individual, and that individual is a reflection of what you value most in life. Love, for sound reasons, can be one of life's greatest rewards.

anyone hears My voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and dine with him, and he with Me. We have more