Quotes About Relationship

when a child is upset, logic often won't work until we have responded to the right brain's emotional needs. We call this emotional connection "attunement," which is how we connect deeply with another person and allow them to "feel felt." When parent and child are tuned in to each other, they experience a sense of joining together.

Would you like to walk to the car? Or I can carry you there. It's your choice." Then she'd need to make it happen. So yes, we want to always connect with our children emotionally.

When children are securely attached to their parents, they feel safe enough to test that relationship. In other words, your child's misbehavior is often a sign of his trust and safety with you. Many parents notice that their children "save it all up for them," behaving much better at school or with other adults than they do at home. This is why. These flare-ups are often signs of safety and trust, rather than just some form of rebellion.

When children are securely attached to their parents, they feel safe enough to test that relationship. In

las experiencias que proporciones en el contexto de la relación con tu hijo moldearán literalmente la estructura física de su cerebro.

How we respond to our children when we're not happy with their choices—with loving guidance? with irritation and criticism? with fury and a shaming outburst?—will impact the development of our relationship with them, and even their own sense of self.

tuning in to her emotions. That attunement helped her "feel felt

You don't want to send the message that you'll be in relationship with her when she's "good," or "happy," but withhold your love and affection when she's not. Would you want to stay in that kind of a relationship? Wouldn't we advise our teenagers to avoid friends or partners who treat them like that when they've made a mistake?

How intention glows determines where attention goes, neural firing flows, and neural and interpersonal connection grow.

We don't turn our back or reject them when they're distressed. We don't say, or even imply, that their happiness is a condition they must meet to receive our love.

La disciplina efectiva depende de una relación afectuosa y respetuosa entre el adulto y el niño. La disciplina no debe incluir nunca amenazas ni humillaciones, provocar daño físico, asustar ni hacer que los niños sientan que el adulto es un enemigo. La disciplina ha de transmitir sensación de seguridad y cariño a todos los implicados.

in children, security or insecurity of attachment is not a characteristic of the individual, but rather of a relationship: it is not uncommon for a child to be securely attached with one parent, and disorganized (or insecurely attached) with the other (Main, 1995).

A profound finding from attachment research is that the most robust predictor of a child's attachment to parents is the way parents narrate their own recollections of childhood during the Adult Attachment Interview. This implies that the structure of an adult's narrative process—not merely what the adult recalls, but how it is recalled—is the most powerful feature in predicting how an adult will relate to a child.

a stable relationship requires that good interactions outnumber bad interactions by at least 5 to 1.

Jung viewed Freud as a mentor, but he never wanted to be anybody's disciple.

She viewed us as being married. There were times in order to avoid confusion that she would present me as, 'My husband, Rob,' but never as, 'my partner,' or 'my life partner,' or anything like that. What always pleased me or always sounded so nice was, 'Have you met my Rob?' Or, 'This is my Rob.'

The space between the television set and the viewer is holy ground.

When I imagine my viewer - and it sounds saccharine - but it's a family thing. People in line for my books came as families.

Our viewers are loyal. They've seen Pat and me together for 30 years. It's like Ken and Barbie. How do you break them up?

So I decided to move that scene in the doctor's office to two-thirds into the movie, after the viewers had come to know Ryan and Ali and share in their happiness.

I've known Jan, probably, very well for, well, for over a decade. And the passion that Jan just showed the viewers in that particular piece is very real.

I think that you have to get out there and get with the folks and push the flesh and be connected to viewers and listeners.

I'm always thinking about the viewers.

I've always wanted to connect with my viewers but there's only so much you can do through commenting and tweets.