Quotes About Loss

Is it so easy—I thought—to die in the life of the people we can't live without?

felt that if I ran away with the others I would leave with her something of mine that she would never give back.

That people, even more than things, lost their boundaries and overflowed into shapelesness is what most frightened her.

the dead are objects that have broken, a television, the radio, the mixer, and the best thing is to remember them as they were when they were working, because the only acceptable tomb is memory.

I let his rose wither in a vase on my desk, a vase painfully empty of flowers since the long-ago time when, on my birthday, Mario would give me a cattleya, in imitation of Swann. In the evening the flower was already black and bent on its stem. I threw it in the trash.

I looked at him attentively. It was really true, there was no longer anything about him that could interest me. He wasn't even a fragment of the past, he was only a stain, like the print of a hand left years ago on a wall.

I cried and cried, as if I had carelessly lost somewhere the most promising part of myself.

I asked myself what I was doing in that car. They were my friends, of course, my boyfriend was there, we were going to Lila's wedding celebration. But that very celebration confirmed that Lila, the only person I still felt was essential even though our lives had diverged, no longer belonged to us and, without her, every intermediary between me and those youths, that car racing through the streets, was gone.

Temevo che le accadessero cose, belle o brutte, senza che io fossi presente. Era un timore vecchio, un timore che non mi era mai passato: la paura che, perdendomi pezzi della sua vita, perdesse intensita' e centralita' la mia.

Il cane se ne era andato attraverso uno strappo nella rete degli eventi. Ne lasciamo tanti, lacerazioni dell'incuria quando mettiamo insieme causa ed effetto. L'essenziale è che la corda, l'intreccio che ora mi reggeva, tenesse.

I wanted him to see in that plate of pasta everything that, by leaving, he would no longer be able to look at, or touch, or caress, listen to, smell: never again.

She wanted not only to disappear herself, now, at the age of sixty-six, but also to eliminate the entire life that she had left behind.

Is it possible that in all those years she left me nothing of herself, or, worse, that I didn't want to keep anything of her? It is. This

Right after her funeral I felt the way you feel when it suddenly starts raining hard, and you look around and find no place to take shelter.

Temía que en mi ausencia le ocurrieran cosas, buenas o malas. Era un temor antiguo, un temor que no había superado: el miedo de que al perderme trozos de su vida, la mía perdiera intensidad e importancia.

No es locura, Dede, es dolor. -No derramó ni una lágrima. -Las lágrimas no son el dolor. -Sí, pero sin las lágrimas, ¿quién te asegura que el dolor existe?

Now that Mario had left me, if he no longer loved me, if I in fact no longer loved him, why should I continue to carry in my flesh so many of his attributes? What I had deposited in him had surely been eliminated now by Carla in the secret years of their relationship. But as for me, if all the features that I had assimilated from him had once seemed to me lovable, how, now that they no longer seemed lovable, was I going to tear them out of me?

Si rien ne pouvait nous sauver, ni l'argent, ni le corps d'un homme, ni même les études, autant tout détruire immédiatement.

The whole future–I thought–will be that way, life lives together with the damp odor of the land of the dead, attention with inattention, passionate leaps of the heart along with abrupt losses of meaning. But it won't be worse that the past.

some people are always saved and some perish.

But within a few years I began to feel old age, it was as if I were fading along with the world in which I had established myself.

erased my Enzo, she said, the person I was most fond of. Your father erases everything

She felt that the years she had dedicated to him had been in vain

El dolor no cuajó alrededor de nada.