Quotes About Reflection

55. See as for the first time a beauteous person as an ordinary object.

Moderately wise a man should be— don't wish for too much wisdom; a man's heart is seldom happy if he is truly wise. Moderately wise a man should be— don't wish for too much wisdom; if you can't see far into the future, you can live free from care.32

Wisdom finds its literary expression in wisdom literature.

Lezen is een soort handgemeen tussen lezer en boek. Het is een strijd. (...) Het is een afstandelijke houding, waarin ik leer de ruimte van mijn verbeelding te vergroten, alsof ik bepaalde rollen uitprobeer. Dat is een oefening in vrijheid en geeft aan mijn eigen levensovertuiging een zekere soepelheid en groothartigheid. Door op deze manier andere wegen uit te proberen, scheppen we opnieuw ruimte om onze houding te overwegen.

The aim of our treatment structure is to organize different therapeutic contexts in such ways that they separately, and, not least, together, enhance competences for reflexivity and self-regulation as well as symptom reduction. A rationale for a combination of different therapeutic contexts is that mentalizing is challenged in different ways and at different levels in the different contexts, as it is in everyday life, and the different settings provide diverse opportunities to practice .

Good mentalizing refers to mental and relational strengths as curiosity, perspective taking, forgiveness, reflective contemplation, a trusting attitude, humility, playfulness , willingness to assume responsibility and accept accountability and being aware of one's impact on others (Bateman and Fonagy 2016

Was that it? (for my grave stone)

Dysmorphia is when someone looks in the mirror, and sees something else. While I studied my own whatever I was, I decided that maybe everyone has at least a touch of dysmorphia; maybe it's impossible for anyone to ever truly know what they look like.

What was inside him would never go away. What had happened would never not have happened.

The past is the past. It's the present we should worry about.

If certain places you came to in life felt right, then how many others were just as clearly the wrong place to be?

Chris is a little ashamed of having once fallen for him: it makes him sad how everything changes, how ruthless the heart can be.

She thinks about the salt point, that mysterious, elusive moment of change.

All desire, Tracy had had occasion since to think, is to some degree monstrous.

Getting drunk or high every night. Being hungover every morning. You run out of options at a certain point. You come to understand why everybody else is living the boring life. And it doesn't look so boring anymore.

What did beauty matter, anyway?

She simply could not imagine lives ending so soon. Oh, you poor young men, she thought wildly.

The former East Germany hardly had a monopoly on complicity. Life's every moment caught one out in one form or another.

That milky splatter on the sheets makes him unbearably sad, and he wonders, not for the first time, whether the whole point of orgasm isn't, somehow, unbearable sadness.

Contemporary Americans, immersed in the busy rhythms of twenty-first-century life, rarely pause to reflect that they dwell in a land that has been inhabited for millennia. Human settlement on the continent we call North America (after the Florentine cartographer Amerigo Vespucci) began at least 15,000 years ago

The past is a ghost that haunts us. Ghosts must be banished.

Perhaps he had failed. Perhaps the Order had failed. But both had failed nobly. There was something to that.

He wondered if he'd completely lost his mind, but then figured that people who'd gone insane never wondered if they'd gone insane.

Self-pity is an indulgence for artists and noblemen. Don't spend any more time with it than you must. Hear what it says, learn from it if you can, then move on.