Quotes About Perspective

Chiar în vârtejul relelelor daÈ›i sufletelor voastre veselia cea de toate zilele, c?ci pentru morÈ›i belÈ™ugul aurului nu mai are preÈ›.

they looked so much the same; perhaps their faces were a little less doughy, more defined. Are they stunted? Am I seeing them the way I will always see them? Am I the keeper of the ghosts of their childhood selves?

En tiempos de paz se observa las barrigas de las mujeres. En tiempos de guerra, los movimientos de los poderosos.

Un sabio, sí, era un sabio quien por primera vez alzó en su mente y con su lengua expresó que la boda con un igual es lo mejor, con mucho, y que ni con quienes por su riqueza viven en la molicie ni con quienes por su linaje están ensoberbecidos, cuando uno es un jornalero, ha de ambicionar casarse...

És fàcil, per al qui es troba lliure de penes, donar consell i fer avertiments als qui pateixen.

MI definición de una mujer hermosa ha ido cambiando con el tiempo. En mis años mozos era una rubia despampanante; más adelante fue una mujer madura, afable, conversadora y con bueno sentido del humor; y hoy en día sería una mujer que se contenta con sentarse a mi lado a ver la televisión.

But when we reduce the conversation to simply passing judgment, we are left with no conversation at all.

We bitch about our difficulties along the rough surface of our path, we curse every sharp stone underneath, until at some point in our maturation, we finally look down to see that they are diamonds.

Neutralizing each other's complexity affords us a kind of manageable otherness.

My husband deals with pain; I deal with pleasure. They are intimately acquainted.

When I ask her if her open marriage isn't painful, she answers, "Sometimes it is. Sometimes it's not. But monogamy—which we never negotiated, by the way—was painful, too.

He invites us to recognize that our values evolve as we mature and "move from an understanding of ethical and moral issues in black and white absolutist terms to comprehending the gray ambiguity of most matters."6

Boccio, author of Mindfulness Yoga, to think about as he leaves the session: "We bitch about our difficulties along the rough surface of our path, we curse every sharp stone underneath, until at some point in our maturation, we finally look down to see that they are diamonds.

It is ironic that some people, like Guy, will minimize the emotional involvement to lessen the offense ("It meant nothing!"), while others, like Charmaine, will highlight the emotional nature of the bond for exactly the same purpose ("Nothing happened!").

Intimate betrayal feels intensely personal—a direct attack in the most vulnerable place. However, looking through the lens of the damage it caused the aggrieved partner, we see only one side of the story. Cheating is what they did to their partner, but what were they doing for themselves? And why?

Proust, "The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes." Adele recalls a moment when she experienced

What for Partner A may have been agonizing betrayal was transformative for Partner B. Understanding why the infidelity happened and what it signified is critical, both for couples who choose to end their relationship and for those who want to stay together, rebuild, and revitalize theirs.

To doggedly look for marital causes in cases like these is an example of what's known as the "streetlight effect," where the drunken man is searching for his missing keys not where he dropped them but where the light is. Human beings have a tendency to look for things in the places where it is easiest to search for them rather than in the places where the truth is more likely to be found.

Frank Jude Boccio, author of Mindfulness Yoga, to think about as he leaves the session: "We bitch about our difficulties along the rough surface of our path, we curse every sharp stone underneath, until at some point in our maturation, we finally look down to see that they are diamonds.

Understanding infidelity does not mean justifying it.

Couples therapist Michele Scheinkman emphasizes how important it is to hold a dual perspective that encompasses the differentiated experiences of the couple, something they are unable to do for themselves at this time.

Do you love the blouseman more than all of us?" "No," her mother replies. "But sometimes it's easier to be different with a different person.

When you ask people if they are monogamous, I suggest you ask them first what their definition of monogamy is.

From his perspective, things are clear. "I want to rebuild with you, not rehash the same things over and over." I have explained to him that repetition helps restore coherence and is intrinsic to healing;