Quotes About Perspective

Piensa qué te gustaría decir a ti, llegado el momento, y escoge tu mentalidad.

You have a choice. Mindsets are just beliefs. They're powerful beliefs, but they're just something in your mind, and you can change your mind. As you read, think about where you'd like to go and which mindset will take you there.

Con frecuencia, un buen negociador es aquel que comprende los intereses de la otra persona e intenta servirlos también.

This point is also crucial. In the fixed mindset, everything is about the outcome. If you fail—or if you're not the best—it's all been wasted. The growth mindset allows people to value what they're doing regardless of the outcome. They're tackling problems, charting new courses, working on important issues. Maybe they haven't found the cure for cancer, but the search was deeply meaningful.

You can look back and say, "I could have been…," polishing your unused endowments like trophies. Or you can look back and say, "I gave my all for the things I valued." Think about what you want to look back and say. Then choose your mindset.

Then I realized something. I controlled half of the relationship, my half. I could have my half of the relationship.

Elige a alguien que ejerza el papel de abogado del diablo, que tome puntos de vista opuestos a los tuyos de modo que puedas ver los puntos débiles de tu decisión.

In my opinion, we chatted back and forth pleasantly through the hour-and-a-half journey, but at the end he said to me, "Thank you for telling me about yourself." It really hit me. He was the dream validator - handsome, intelligent, successful. And that's what I had used him for. I had shown no interest in him as a person, only in him as a mirror of my excellence. Luckily for me, what he mirrored back to me was a far more valuable lesson.

The Ego is the "container" for our life. The Ego creates a boundary between us and everything else and mediates our relationship with the world.

Here's to another year and let's hope it's above ground.

Happiness is the lucky pane of glass you carry in your head. It takes all your cunning just to hang on to it, and once it's smashed you have to move into a different sort of life.

Anyone's childhood can be an act of disablement if rehearsed and replayed and squinted at in a certain light. . .

and thus they selectively remember parts of their life, focusing on those parts that support their own points of view.

between the conscious lie to fool others and unconscious self-justification to fool ourselves, there's a fascinating gray area patrolled by an unreliable, self-serving historian—memory. Memories are often pruned and shaped with an ego-enhancing bias that blurs the edges of past events, softens culpability, and distorts what really happened.

Most people, when directly confronted by evidence that they are wrong, do not change their point of view or plan of action but justify it even more tenaciously.

To show how memory changes to fit our story, psychologists study how memories evolve over time: if your memories of the same people change, becoming positive or negative spending on what is happening in your life now, then it's all about you, not them. This process happens so gradually that it can be a jolt to realize you ever felt differently.

even reading information that goes against your point of view can make you all the more convinced you are right.

when you are about to make a big purchase or an important decision—which car or computer to buy, whether to undergo plastic surgery, or whether to sign up for a costly self-help program—don't ask someone who has just done it.

Understanding without vengeance, reparation without retaliation, are possible only if we are willing to stop justifying our own position.

In one way or another, all of us are blind to whatever privileges life has handed us, even if those privileges are temporary

But we must also be careful which memories we select to justify our lives, because we will have to live by them.

Memories create our stories, but our stories also create our memories.

Self-justification is blocking each partner from asking: Could I be wrong? Could I be making a mistake? Could I change?

As Debra and Frank's problems accumulated, each developed an implicit theory of how the other person was wrecking the marriage. (These theories are called "implicit" because people are often unaware that they hold them.)