Quotes About Perspective

Utram bibis? Aquam an undam? What are you drinking? The water or the wave?

Effective communication is not someone else's job, nor does it begin with being understood. Rather, it's about understanding the other person.

The truth is, different people have different reactions to the same situation. Stress is a choice. Stress is also the result of our choices.

Focusing on what we don't have is a waste of time and energy. To really make a difference, let's instead focus out energy on succeeding within the box.

Oh! isn't it stupid, the war?-as if it was not good to be alive. He wanted to say: You can't tell how good it is to be alive till you're facing death, because you don't live till then. And when a whole lot of you feel like that-and are ready to give their lives for each other, it's worth all the rest of life put together. But he couldn't get it out to this girl who believed in nothing.

FALDER. [Almost eagerly] Yes, sir, but you don't understand what prison is. It's here it gets you. He grips his chest.

Life is a jest, and all things show it, I thought so once, and now I know it.

A couple of hundred dollars for a fishing pole!?¨ You'll hear that all the time if you don't keep your mouth shut in certain company. You can talk about the aesthetics and even mention a cane rod will appreciate in value while a new graphite rod will depreciate, but the best thing to do is turn around and say, ¨$9,000.00 for a car? I only paid $500.00 for mine.

And never fall into that statistical macho trap that's so prevalent in fly-fishing these days. If you keep score, you can be beaten, but if you refuse to compete you can leave the impression that you have long since risen above that kind of crap. When someone says to you, "I caught forty-eight trout and ten of them were twenty inches or better. How'd you do?" say, "Yeah, we got some. Couple nice ones, too.

Sure, sometimes a non-angler will ask how I can stand to hook, play, and land these increasingly rare fish that I claim to love and respect so much, adding to their already heavy burden of survival. To that I can only say, "It's because life is more complicated than either of us could ever imagine." 21.

Men need to remember that when women seem upset and talk about problems is not the time to offer solutions; instead she needs to be heard, and gradually she will feel better on her own.

He has no idea that by just listening with empathy and interest he can be supportive. He does not know that on Venus talking about problems is not an invitation to offer a solution. LIFE

Aman thinks he scores high with a woman when he does something very big for her, like buying her a new car or taking her on a vacation. He assumes he scores less when he does something small, like opening the car door, buying her a flower, or giving her a hug. Based on this kind of score keeping, he believes he will fulfill her best by focusing his time, energy, and attention into doing something large for her. This formula, however, doesn't work because women keep score differently.

Men typically give in relationships what men want, while women give what women want. Each mistakenly assumes that the other has the same needs and desires.

The more intimate we are with someone, the more difficult it is objectively to hear their point of view without reacting to their negative feelings. To protect ourselves from feeling worthy of their disrespect or disapproval automatic defenses come up to resist their point of view. Even if we agree with their point of view, we may stubbornly persist in arguing with them.

It took me years to understand that my wife actually wanted me to worry for her when she was upset. Without this awareness of our different needs, I would minimize the importance of her concerns. This only made her more upset.

Both men and women need to stop offering the method of caring they would prefer and start to learn the different ways their partners think, feel, and react.

When men and women are on the verge of arguing, they are generally misunderstanding each other.

Gradually she will realize that a man wants to make improvements when he feels he is being approached as the solution to a problem rather than as the problem itself.

She wants empathy, but he thinks she wants solutions.

This distinction also helps us to understand why men commonly interrupt a woman when she is talking about a problem. This interruption generally occurs in an intimate relationship when a woman is not looking to solve a problem but instead is talking in order to feel better or closer to her partner.

È necessario che gli uomini ricordino che quando le donne sono turbate e parlano dei loro problemi non è il momento di offrire soluzioni; hanno

For a woman, being happy when the person you love is upset just doesn't seem right.

durata del turbamento di una donna; la profondità del pozzo non è sempre la stessa.