Quotes About Perspective

Good mentalizing refers to mental and relational strengths as curiosity, perspective taking, forgiveness, reflective contemplation, a trusting attitude, humility, playfulness , willingness to assume responsibility and accept accountability and being aware of one's impact on others (Bateman and Fonagy 2016

Sometimes I think that we should send all of the Killer Mediums to Afghanistan because al-Qaeda wouldn't stand a chance.

Sometimes what you depend on is other people being even more wacked than you are.

Getting drunk or high every night. Being hungover every morning. You run out of options at a certain point. You come to understand why everybody else is living the boring life. And it doesn't look so boring anymore.

Anybody can be anybody, he told himself as he eased his body down onto Devin's, the blunt pain of a beautiful pleasure wedging him open.

Men delude themselves into thinking that the events in which they participate are of particular significance to history, but they rarely are. One empire is the same as another.

Deny people something they want, over a longish period, and they naturally start disagreeing about precisely what it is they do want.

in this life, living, there is no dignity except perhaps in laughter.

Romesh Chand was a man who did not believe in telephones, in the necessity for telephones

Writers use narratives to select from everything there is, and make contexts by putting the pieces into relation; that's what writers do, they make contexts.

When I look back on all the crap I learned in high schoolIt's a wonder I can think at all.

Have a good time" Yesterday it was my birthday. I hung one more year on the line. I should be depressed. My life's a mess. But I'm having a good time. I've been loving and loving and loving. I'm exhausted from loving so well I should go to bed. But a voice in my head says, "Ah, what the hell

All lies and jests, still a man hears what he wants to hear and disregards the rest.

One man's ceiling is another man's floor.

The wrong answer is the right answer to a different question.

If there is a moral in this book, it is not my fault. If there is social relevance, it crept in without alerting me, in which case I would have hit it with a stick." (from preface to a later edition of the novel)

I'd like to hear your opinion on this piece of Beethoven. And remember, it is not Beethoven who is being examined here.

Describe the situation as you see it without exaggerating, making judgments, or explaining how you feel about it.

Remaining hopeful is essential. And it's true that everyone has good and bad qualities. But hope must be tempered with a realistic view of the situation and an assessment of the likelihood of change.

However, if the therapist takes everything the person with BPD says at face value without probing further—and this is not uncommon—the therapist may inadvertently reinforce their twisted thinking, making things worse.

With BPD, the cause of an argument is not necessarily the actual event but the person with BPD's interpretation of that event. As you probably know, you and the person with BPD may come to very different conclusions about what was said and done.

But it is our job to state our thoughts and feelings clearly and to make responsible decisions that are congruent with our values and beliefs. It is not our job to make another person think and feel the way we do or the way we want them to.

Keep in mind that while borderline behavior can be difficult for adults to cope with, it is much harder for children. They have no sense of perspective, little experience, and little or no intellectual understanding of BPD. Furthermore, they are dependent on their borderline parents to meet their most basic physical and emotional needs.

Generally, "I" statements make people less defensive and more open to exploring a solution to the problem.