Quotes About Perspective

If one looks at a thing with the intention of trying to discover what it means, one ends up no longer seeing the thing itself, but of thinking of the question that is raised.

When confronting someone, refrain from using the words always or never. When you say to someone: "You always…" or "You never…," the other person is going to focus more on that one word

You don't want your opening statement to sound like an attack the other person's character, so always begin with an "I" phrase:

Let's go somewhere in private and try to resolve this." "Let's talk this over and find a suitable compromise." "I'd like to hear how you saw the situation so that I better understand.

Here's how you see the issue: ________. And here's how I see it: ________. Let's see where we can come together on this." "Since we don't agree why this happened, let's lay out the facts and come up with a solution we both can live with.

To me it wasn't trivial. Do you have a few minutes now? I'd like to talk this over and find an agreeable solution. (compromise) Let's go into the conference room where we can talk in private." After closing the door, Kate said: "Why don't we try to look at the situation from each other's viewpoint? That may help us find an agreeable solution." (compromise)

Choosing to interpret all of your experiences from a place of love will allow you to strengthen and empower yourself while moving closer to the divine light.

Think of the air you breathe as love. Changes everything"

We are all at different places in our healing process. Do not become invested in getting someone who is not yet where you are to understand you. They truly cannot hear you

You simply cannot know the depth of your magnificence without the contrast of life.

Your relationship with others is your relationship with yourself: mirrored back to you.

It is always self-defeating to pretend to a generation younger than your own it simply erases your own experience in history.

Aldo said he was bored to tearsies by my grandmother's diminutives.

We spoke of a friend of ours who had died the night before, at forty-three. "But my God! I'm forty-one," a bearded banker said. "Don't worry," his wife, who is German, answered. "There is no order. It is not a line.

altogether too much of life is mood. Aldo

You cannot be forever watching for the point, or you lose the simplest thing: being a major character in your own life.

Niet dat ik mij niet voor alle zekerheid altijd al met een flinke dosis pessimisme gewapend heb. En wat heb ik er nu aan? Geen malle moer. Het leven is zo inconsideraat dat je net zo goed optimist kunt zijn: heb je meer plezier ook. Toch, veel samen gelukkig geweest, godverdomme. Wat een rotstreek.

Lucidity is the wound closest to the sun.

The window is the reason the death row inmates go to the visiting room to see their lawyers and investigators. The lawyers think their clients want to see them. No, they want to see the window.

What if we are all capable of lying to ourselves? But the story didn't bother Naomi. Instead it reassured her confirming that the stories we tell ourselves have more meaning than the facts. That doesn't make them lies. Seeded with every myth was the emotional truth.

People had a drive to immortalize their past, even the evil stuff, like Abu Ghraib or the Holocaust. They liked to take pictures, keep journals, because they believed in what they were doing. No one, Naomi had learned, did evil without believing it was right at the time. Maybe this was why it was nearly impossible to talk them out of it?

This got me thinking - if there are things inside us too tiny to see, might there be things outside us too big to believe?

believe we can carry both the pain of the victim and the truth of the accused without doing disservice to either.

If you understand what makes him tick-what is magic for him- then you can understand anyone