Quotes About Bond

No distance of place or lapse of time can lessen the friendship of those who are throughout persuaded of each other's worth

No distance of place or lapse of time can lessen the friendship of those who are thoroughly persuaded of each others worth.

The primary fantasy bond is the core defense underlying our resistance to change. It is the major barrier to a full, rich existence.

Experiencing the feeling of hunger that comes from unfulfilled emotional needs is bearable, albeit painful, for adults. Unfortunately, most individuals choose to deny or avoid this pain as they did when they were young. They seek every means to kill off their feeling of being rejected or alone. They resort to a fantasy bond, a powerful and effective painkiller, to relieve their fear of aloneness and lessen the ache of hunger.

HUNGER AND THE MYTH OF FAMILY LOVE

It is a major thesis of this book that the fantasy bond in the traditional family causes a tremendous amount of innocent, unnecessary suffering. Denying primitive hunger and pain and pretending connections that, in fact, do not exist, lead to fundamental distortions of each person's sense of reality. It is a great burden on everyone to play this game of "let's pretend.

To defend against intrusions into this inner fantasy, the person utilizes three major modes of defense: (1) selection; (2) distortion; and (3) provocation. These defenses are behavioral operations that serve to protect the fantasy bond.

Because of the anxiety inherent in being vulnerable and undefended in a new love relationship, an individual unconsciously attempts to merge and form a unit with the loved one. In forming a bond, the lover is able to alleviate anxiety and attain a false sense of security and safety by sustaining the illusion of being fused. The fantasy of being connected functions as a defense, for whenever this bond is broken, the underlying pain and fear of separation invariably surface.

Parfois c'était comme si Jon et moi , on était l'ombre de l'autre, toujours sur les talons de l'autre, à respirer l'air de l'autre. On nous conduisait au collège ensemble, on déjeunait ensemble, on prenait ensemble le bus pour rentrer et le soir on mangeait ensemble.

The great American psychologist William James wrote, "Between what a man calls me and what he simply calls mine the line is difficult to draw." In that sense, he observed, "our immediate family is a part of ourselves. Our father and mother, our wife and babes, are bone of our bone and flesh of our flesh. When they die, a part of our very selves is gone.

Between what a man calls me and what he simply calls mine the line is difficult to draw." In that sense, he observed, "our immediate family is a part of ourselves. Our father and mother, our wife and babes, are bone of our bone and flesh of our flesh. When they die, a part of our very selves is gone.

It's as if you were giving me a part of you," said Vanessa.

Come on Grace, I'm not going to tell on you. I'm your sister.' And that's all she has to say.

Reed: "I owe you big-time, Ronnie." Ronnie: "You've been my best friend since kindergarten, Reed. I owe you big-time." That's the kind of friend she is.

One can only walk so far from one's true self before the bond either snaps, or pulls one back.

This is our last hunt, old wolf. And as we have always done, we go to it together.

When you see me loyal to my family, then you see the wolf.

One can only walk so far from one's true self before the bond either snaps, or pulls back. I am fortunate. I have been pulled back.

We were one thing. A whole thing. You and I and Nighteyes. I felt a strange sort of peace. As if all the parts of me were finally in one place. All the missing bits that would make me a complete... thing.' I shook my head. 'Words don't read that far.

Because your heart will be hammered against him, and your strength will be tempered in his fire.

One devoted to his cat would not leave it long alone. A cat's loyalty is not a thing to be taken for granted, but courted day by day.

A secret is only yours so long as you don't share it. Tell it to one person, and it's a secret no more.

We did hard things for each other. Risked our lives. Gave up our lives and faced death, and then faced life again. You might be surprised to find that facing life can be much harder than facing death.

I have to let you go,' he said in a cracked whisper. 'While I can. Leave me that, Fitz. That I broke the bond. That I did not take what was not mine.