Quotes About Child

when a child is upset, logic often won't work until we have responded to the right brain's emotional needs.

If you're in a public place and your child is disturbing everyone around you, it may be necessary to take him outside while you attempt to appeal to his upstairs brain.)

what you do and don't value, and what you do and don't give attention to, will impact who your child becomes.

Instead of just reacting to the external actions, you are focusing your attention on what her inner world may be like—red, green, or blue—and communicating to that internal state of your child.

The immature brain of the child is so sensitive to social experience that adoptive parents should in fact also be called the biological parents because the family experiences they create shape the biological structure of their child's brain.

when a child is upset, logic often won't work until we have responded to the right brain's emotional needs. We call this emotional connection "attunement,

As we'll explain in the coming chapters, these everyday parenting challenges result from a lack of integration within your child's brain. The

We need to know what's behind it, what's causing it. If we focus only on our child's behavior (her external world) and neglect the reasons behind that behavior (her internal world), then we'll concentrate only on the symptoms, not the cause that's producing them. And if we consider only the symptoms, we'll have to keep treating those symptoms over and over again.

remember how important it is to discipline this one child in this one moment.

Benefit #1: Connection Moves a Child from Reactivity to Receptivity

fin y al cabo, el cerebro izquierdo lógico del niño estaba en ese momento totalmente inactivo. Por consiguiente, si Tina hubiese respondido con el izquierdo, su hijo habría sentido que ella no lo entendía o que no le importaba lo que sentía. Se hallaba inmerso en un aluvión emocional, no racional, del cerebro derecho, y una

Estar presente significa poner todo tu ser –tu atención y tu conciencia– cuando estés con tu hijo.

So don't think of discipline as a one-size-fits-all solution. Instead, remember how important it is to discipline this one child in this one moment.

One strategy that can be effective is to help the child create a "calm zone" with toys or books or a favorite stuffed animal, which she visits when she needs the time and place to calm down.

In each situation, make decisions about what's best for this unique child in this particular moment, and what will lead to growth and an expansion of what they believe they can do. That's resilience.

The parental response, then, undermines both of the primary goals of discipline—changing behavior and building the brain—because it sidesteps an opportunity for the child to think about her own behavior and even feel some healthy guilt or remorse.

spoiling has nothing to do with connecting with your child when he's upset or making bad choices. Remember, you can't spoil a child by giving him too much emotional connection, attention, physical affection, or love. When our children need us, we need to be there for them.

Right now, your child's brain is constantly being wired and rewired, and the experiences you provide will go a long way toward determining the structure of her brain.

Think back about the functions of the upstairs brain: good decision making, control over emotions and body, flexibility, empathy, self-understanding, and morality. These are the aspects of our kids' character we want to develop, right? As we put it in The Whole-Brain Child, we want to engage the upstairs brain, rather than enraging the downstairs brain. Engage, don't enrage.

cuando un niño está alterado, la lógica no suele surtir efecto hasta que hayamos respondido a las necesidades emocionales del cerebro derecho.

las experiencias que proporciones en el contexto de la relación con tu hijo moldearán literalmente la estructura física de su cerebro.

The immature brain of the child is so sensitive to social experience that adoptive parents should in fact also be called the biological parents because the family experiences they create shape the biological structure of their child's brain. Being a birth parent is only one way parents biologically shape their children's lives.

Let's begin with the actual goal of discipline. When your child misbehaves, what do you want to accomplish? Are

If you were allowed one wish for your child, seriously consider wishing him or her optimism.