Quotes About Feelings

The rising strong reckoning has two deceptively simple parts: (1) engaging with our feelings, and (2) getting curious about the story behind the feelings--what emotions we're experiencing and how they are connected to our thoughts and behaviors.

As I mentioned in the introduction, we asked around seventy-five hundred people to identify all of the emotions that they could recognize and name when they're experiencing them. The average was three: glad, sad, and mad—or, as they were more often written, happy, sad, and pissed off. Couple this extremely limited vocabulary with the importance of emotional literacy, and you basically have a crisis. It's this crisis that I'm trying to help address in this book.

Learning how to actually feel their feelings. Staying mindful about numbing behaviors (they struggled too). Learning how to lean into the discomfort of hard emotions.

Empathy is not connecting to an experience, it's connecting to the emotions that underpin an experience.

Vulnerability is about sharing our feelings and our experiences with people who have earned the right to hear them.

Am I holding on to Unexpressed emotions today?

Research on emotion shows that positive emotions wear off quickly.

But no matter what we use, we can't selectively numb emotions- when we numb the dark, we also numb the light.

my life has a soundtrack. And the songs from that soundtrack can stir memories and provoke emotion in me like nothing else.

understanding emotion can be a life raft in a sea of turbulent feelings.

Vulnerability is the core of all emotions and feelings. To feel is to be vulnerable. To believe vulnerability is weakness is to believe that feeling is weakness. To foreclose on our emotional life out of a fear that the costs will be too high is to walk away from the very thing that gives purpose and meaning to living.

However, when repair seems possible and we share our hurt feelings and try to reconnect without the anger, the other person tends to respond with constructive actions including apologies and amends.

define calm as creating perspective and mindfulness while managing emotional reactivity. When I think about calm people, I think about people who can bring perspective to complicated situations and feel their feelings without reacting to heightened emotions like fear and anger.

Mindfulness requires that we not be 'over-identified' with thoughts and feelings, so that we are caught up and swept away by negative reactivity.

We cannot selectively numb emotions. When we numb the painful emotions, we also numb the positive emotions.

Vulnerability is the core of all emotions and feelings. To feel is to be vulnerable.

To feel is to be vulnerable. Believing that vulnerability is weakness is believing that feeling is weakness. And, like it or not, we are emotional beings.

To believe vulnerability is weakness is to believe that feeling is weakness.

When I interviewed the participants whom I'd describe as living a Wholehearted life about the same topic, they consistently talked about trying to feel the feelings, staying mindful about numbing behaviors, and trying to lean into the discomfort of hard emotions.

stealth expectations and disappointment have been the sources of some of our most difficult arguments and hurt feelings.

It's possible that feeling bittersweet may be more frequently experienced or recognized by people who have a more nuanced ability to interpret their emotional states.

Recognize emotion, and get curious about our feelings and how they connect with the way we think and behave.

Empathy is connecting to the emotions that underpin an experience

especially when the joy is so intense that we're afraid to let ourselves feel it.