Quotes About Gender

I was pretty sure she was just mimicking me. And to be honest, I didn't know if "she" was a she—weren't slugs, like, both or something?

It's interesting that the woman who wrote that treatise – the one you all practically worship in Alethkar –decided that all of the feminine tasks involve sitting around having fun while all the masculine ones involve finding someone to stick a spear in you. Telling, eh?

Using a fetching face to make men do as you wish is no different from a man using muscle to force a woman to his will, she'd said. Both are base, and both will fail a person as they age. No

You want to get a palaquin?" Lopen asked. "Those are for women." "Ain't nothing wrong with being a woman, gancho," Lopen said. "Some of my relatives are women.

Sexism interfered with profits.

Using a fetching face to make men do as you wish is no different from a man using muscle to force a woman to his will, she'd said. Both are base, and both will fail a person as they age.

Propriety is nonsense?" "Too much in high society is built around the idea of making certain you don't need to trust anyone," Waxillium said. "Contracts, detailed operating reports, not being seen alone with an eligible member of the opposite gender. If you remove the foundation of trust from a relationship, then what is the point of that relationship?

Even to me the issue of "stay small, sweet, quiet, and modest" sounds like an outdated problem, but the truth is that women still run into those demands whenever we find and use our voices.

As I look back on what I've learned about shame, gender, and worthiness, the greatest lesson is this: If we're going to find our way out of shame and back to each other, vulnerability is the path and courage is the light. To set down those lists of what we're supposed to be is brave. To love ourselves and support each other in the process of becoming real is perhaps the greatest single act of daring greatly.

Until both men and women are allowed to be who we are rather than who we are supposed to be, it will be impossible to achieve freedom and equality.

In a US study on conformity to feminine norms, researchers recently listed the most important attributes associated with "being feminine" as being nice, pursuing a thin body ideal, showing modesty by not calling attention to one's talents or abilities, being domestic, caring for children, investing in a romantic relationship, keeping sexual intimacy contained within one committed relationship, and using our resources to invest in our appearance.

From Long Island to Silicon Valley, a fear of being perceived as weak forces men into pretending they are never afraid, lonely, confused, vulnerable, or wrong; and an extreme fear of being perceived as cold-hearted, imperfect, high maintenance, or hostile forces women to pretend they're never exhausted, ambitious, pissed off, or even hungry.

Gender itself is a combination of highly choreographed steps and well-rehearsed compromises.

Women, who feel shame when they don't feel heard or validated, often resort to pushing and provoking with criticism ("Why don't you ever do enough?" or "You never get it right"). Men, in turn, who feel shame when they feel criticized for being inadequate, either shut down (leading women to poke and provoke more) or come back with anger.

There we were, both of us completely engulfed in our shame stories. I was stuck in appearance and body-image fear—the most common shame trigger for women. He was afraid I would think he was weak—the most common shame trigger for men.

Women most often experience shame as a web of layered, conflicting, and competing social-community expectations. The expectations dictate who we should be, what we should be, how we should be.

I highly recommend Kilbourne's and Katz's DVDs—they've changed the way I see the world and myself. (Jean Kilbourne's latest DVD is Killing Us Softly 4,6 and Katz's DVD is titled Tough Guise: Violence, Media, and the Crisis in Masculinity.7)

admiration —and surprise. It was nearly unheard of for a woman to hold property, he knew, even a woman of her rank and independence. "And you feel

It has to do with our makeup. Most men, but not all, are realists. Whereas most women are idealists. Most men are practical, sensible

Isn't blood a woman's ink?

With boys there was a fundamental assumption that they had a right to be there—not always, but more often than not. With girls, Why her? came up so quickly.

Er zal pas sprake zijn van emancipatie, wanneer het niet meer kan gebeuren dat mensen (mannen noch vrouwen) object zijn van begeerte-zonder-genegenheid of van gevoel-zonder-inzicht, van welke benadering dan ook zonder respect voor de persoon.

Today there is still a battle going on between those who carry sacks of cement, and those who place them on their women's heads.

Le plus dur, c'est d'être femme. Etre femme et aspirer à autre chose que de passer sa vie dans la cuisine. Autrement dit: avoir du courage, oser aller plus loin.