Quotes About Perception

difference between a criticism and a complaint, how the former contains judgment while the latter contains a request.

If you ever want proof that what people present online is a prettier version of their lives, become a therapist and Google your patients.

Do they consider what they're saying to be the only version of the story—the "accurate" version—or do they know that theirs is just one of many ways to tell it?

There are many ways to tell a story, and if I've learned anything as a therapist, it's that most people are what therapists call "unreliable narrators." That's not to say that they purposely mislead. It's more that every story has multiple threads, and they tend to leave out the strands that don't jibe with their perspectives.

People don't always remember events or conversations clearly, but they do remember with great accuracy how an experience made them feel.

Fireflies love the dark too. There's beauty in those places. But we have to look in there to see it.

Some scientists have come up with a complex mathematical equation to predict happiness based on the premise that happiness stems not from how well things go but whether things go better than expected.

The people who are watching us--the people who really see us--don't care about the false self, about the show we're putting on.

mistaking feeling less for feeling better.

we imprison ourselves with a narrative of self-punishment. If we have a choice between believing one of two things, both of which we have evidence for—I'm unlovable, I'm lovable—often we choose the one that makes us feel bad.

The psychoanalyst Erich Fromm had made this point more than fifty years earlier: "Modern man thinks he loses something—time—when he does not do things quickly; yet he does not know what to

Happiness equals reality minus expectations. Apparently, you can make people happy by delivering bad news and then taking it back

I have a feeling that there's a lot of buried love between John and Margo because I know this: love can often look like so many things that don't seem like love.

You're so dehydrated I can hear you blink.

Her changing perception of time had altered the sum of her reflections.

Remy didn't suggest an ounce of discourtesy, but only had a different way of talking. It's something Chester'd learned, how a person's words did not always disclose the intention of his heart. He'd been called fine things by people who feared and loathed him, and slanderous things by people who thought well on him but were ignorant.

I was three inches taller but he could smell my fear.

My father used to say there are two kinds of people. The notices and the noticed.

The strangest thing about strange things is that they're only strange when you hear about them or think about them later, but never when you're living them.

It was Aunt Lovey's belief that all ordinary people led extraordinary lives, but just didn't notice.

Plus vieux, tu comprendras que, malgré les apparences, il n'y a pas de bon ou mauvais moment. Il y a un moment, point final.

The strangest thing about strange things is that they're only strange when you hear about them or think about them later, but never when you're living them.

Art isn't a product. It's an experience

My father used to say there are two kinds of people: the noticers and the noticed