Quotes About Perception

One can only see what one observes, and one observes only things which are already in the mind." Trust

when someone looks in a certain direction as they process a question or as they answer it, is that they are thinking—it is not per se indicative of deception.

Commandment 4: Learn to recognize and decode idiosyncratic nonverbal behaviors.

literature. There has been a myth for decades, now well debunked by more than twenty studies, that a person looking away or to the side while answering a question is being deceptive.

Commandment 6: Always try to watch people for multiple tells—behaviors that occur in clusters or in succession.

partner, Dr. Watson, "You see, but you do not observe.

situational awareness," which is a sense of where one is at all times; they don't have a solid mental picture of exactly what is going on around them or even in

Commandment 10: When observing others, be subtle about it.

A rule of thumb: the truth teller merely conveys, while the liar often tries to convince.

Our eyes are the visual gateway to the world around us.

Commandment 9: Knowing how to distinguish between comfort and discomfort will help you to focus on the most important behaviors for decoding nonverbal communications.

There's no classes in elementary school, high school or college that teach people situational awareness.

It is difficult to understand because you and I are not psychopaths. Things like this only make sense to them. Stalin, said it best, because he knew it best: "Kill one person and it's a national tragedy, kill a million people it is a statistic." And so he did because he could and that is the nature of the psychopath. They get away with as much as they can.

Conversely, when we gaze away during a conversation, we tend to do so to engage a thought more clearly without the distraction of looking at the person with whom we are talking. This behavior is often mistaken as rudeness or as personal rejection, which it is not. Nor is it a sign of deception or disinterest; in fact, it is actually a comfort display (Vrij, 2003, 88–89).

USING PACIFIERS TO READ PEOPLE MORE EFFECTIVELY

You never have to explain what you don't say.

Details ensure accuracy and help avoid the risk of overlooking meaningful or nuanced behaviors

I learned at an early age about deception. People often lie, but their nonverbals usually reveal how they actually feel.

While traveling in this highly idiosyncratic country, it became clear to me that the Scots did not like the English.

Everything is humorous, said Shorty, except your own death. But other people will laugh.

A recent survey showed that a third of all Europeans believe that only genetically engineered tomatoes contain genes. Otherwise, the fruits are "gene-free," and, presumably, "risk-free.

The media is trained to find bad news and broadcast it to you. The more they do it and you believe it, the worst the world looks. It then becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. You live from the new paradigm of scarcity and the media, doing its job, broadcasts it. You don't even see it happening. It feels real. You take it as reality.

When you focus on the peace behind the problem, you begin to clean up the perceptions creating and attracting the problem.

Act the part and you will become the part," and "Each of us literally chooses, by his way of attending to things, what sort of universe he shall appear to himself to inhabit.