Quotes About Perception

What I mean by crazy is irrational. There are four ways in which the people you deal with can be irrational: •?They can't see the world clearly. •?They say or think things that make no sense. •?They make decisions and take actions that aren't in their best interest. •?They become downright impossible when you try to guide them back to the side of reason.

Conceal a flaw, and the world will imagine the worst. —MARCUS VALERIUS MARTIAL, ROMAN POET

4. Now say, "And that makes you feel angry/frustrated/ disappointed/upset or what exactly…." Pick the word you think best describes what the person feels. If the person corrects you, ask the person to say what the actual feeling is and repeat it back and get another "Yes." Remember that when someone attaches a word to a feeling, it lowers agitation. That's critical.

crazy starts with a misaligned brain,

There's no such thing as a free lunch." Consciously or unconsciously, nearly everyone keeps score of favors and gestures, and everyone is sensitive to being shortchanged.

Ask managers or salespeople, "What's the biggest mistake you can make?" and often they'll say, "Asking for too much." But they're wrong—because in reality, the biggest mistake you can make is to ask for too little.

Remember the three-brain model I talked about earlier—mammal brain on top of reptile brain and human brain on top of mammal brain, with each one building on the one that came earlier in evolution? The instant judgments we make about people are similar, because they too build on the past. That doesn't mean they're entirely wrong. (In fact, an initial "gut instinct" is often spot-on.) But it means they're not entirely right, either.

Step 1: Increase physical awareness. Impulses begin as physical sensations. Stop and notice what you feel and where you feel it. In your stomach? Head? Neck? Chest? Step 2: Increase emotional awareness. Try to connect the physical sensation to an emotion. Why do you feel tense? What do you feel angry about? What are you afraid of?

Perceiving is believing. Misperceiving is deceiving— And worse yet, prevents achieving. The

Think about what you're thinking. When you consciously analyze the ideas you've formed about a person and weigh these perceptions against reality, you can rewire your brain and build new, more accurate perceptions. Then you'll be communicating with the person who's really in front of you—not the fictitious character conjured up by your false perceptions.

you probably know a lot less than you think you do about the people you want to reach, whether they're new in your life or people you've known forever. That what you think you know may be very wrong. And that reaching these people doesn't just mean opening their minds to you. It also means rewiring yourself so you can see these people as they really are.

An exaggeration is a truth that has lost its temper. —KAHLIL GIBRAN, POET AND PHILOSOPHER

identify the negative qualities that you find most bothersome in the people around you and start acting toward these people as though they're exhibiting the opposing positive qualities. For

How should a system convince people that they do not possess their sex properly? Teach them that in their possession it is shapeless and unconditioned. Only once it has been modified, layered with experts, honeycombed with norms, overlaid with pictorial representations, and sold back to them can it fulfill itself as what its possessors "always wanted".

What people say and do in the most innocent situations can speak volumes about their real selves.

believe you can learn almost everything you need to know—and more than other people would like you to know—simply by watching and listening, keeping your eyes peeled, your ears open. And your mouth closed.

generally, the less knowledgeable one appears, the more forthcoming and revealing the other party will be.

All the other children at my school are stupid. Except I'm not meant to call them stupid, even though this is what they are.

All the other children at my school are stupid. Except I'm not meant to call them stupid, even though this is what they are.

The world is full of obvious things which nobody by any chance ever observes.

Metaphors are lies.

And because there is something they can't see people think it has to be special, because people always think there is something special about what they can't see, like the dark side of the moon, or the other side of a black hole, or in the dark when they wake up at night and they're scared.

Being clever was when you looked at how things were and used the evidence to work out something new.

Some people speak a lot, but have very little to say. Some people speak very little, but have very much to say.