Quotes About Empathy

Não torne as coisas piores, pensando que dói mais do que você realmente está sentindo.

Você é o meu melhor amigo, Shmuel. Meu melhor amigo para a vida toda.

And, you'll forgive me for sounding immodest, but i know that i'm good-looking. Throughout my life, both men and women have made their interest in me obvious. But I can't control any of that. It was simply the way I was born. Ultimately, it means nothing. I could have a heart of stone for all they know. I could be a psychopath or a sociopath. Not all monsters look like the Elephant Man, and not everyone who looks like the Elephant Man is a monster.

E então o cômodo ficou escuro e de alguma maneira, apesar do caos que se seguiu, Bruno percebeu que ainda estava segurando a mão de Shmuel entre as suas e nada no mundo o teria convencido a soltá-la.

Empezaba a darse cuenta de lo maleducadas que podían ser algunas personas cuando se topaban con alguien de un aspecto un poco distinto

the usual nonsense that people who know nothing about anything, like me, say when they don't want their own days to be ruined by worrying about others.

Maybe there were no villains in my mother's story at all. Just men and women, trying to do their best by each other. And failing.

You're my best friend, Shmuel, ... My best friend for life. - The Boy In The Striped Pyjamas

You know, some day, when you're all older,' he said, looking around the room, 'you're going to have troubles of your own and you'll have friends who are going through tough times. Maybe it'll even be one of your own children. And when that happens, you'll look back at the way you're all behaving now and wonder whether you might not have been able to show a little more kindness.

relationship itself is a form of therapy.

Healthy shame is the basic metaphysical boundary for human beings. It is the emotional energy that signals us that we are not God—that we will make mistakes, that we need help. Healthy shame gives us permission to be human.

It is impossible to be intimate if you have no sense of self. How can you share yourself with another if you do not really know who you are? How can anyone know you if you do not know who you really are? One way a person builds a strong sense of self is by developing strong boundaries

We must risk reaching out and looking for nonshaming relationships if we are to heal our shame. There is no other way.

A very young child cannot understand that his dad is a sick alcoholic. Children are limited in logical ability. Their earliest way of thinking is through feelings (felt thought). Children are also egocentric. This doesn't mean they are selfish in the usual meaning of that word. They are not morally selfish. Egocentric thinking means that a child will take everything personally. Even if a parent dies, a child can personalize it.

If we had a caregiver who was mostly predictable, and who touched us and mirrored all our behaviors, we developed a sense of basic trust. When security and trust are present, we begin to develop an interpersonal bond, which forms a bridge of empathic mutuality. Such a bridge is crucial for the development of self-worth. The only way a child can develop a sense of self is through a relationship with another. We are "we" before we are "I.

Most gays carry an excessive amount of shame, as there is particularly strong and widespread shaming of boys who don't display the traditional masculine traits and behaviors. If you are a gay man or woman, your wounded inner preschooler needs to hear that it is perfectly okay to be who you are.

You can't heal what you don't feel.

Nor do we believe that we will not matter if we don't give care to others.

If the parent were to let the child express those feelings, it would threaten his own defenses. The parent must stop the child's feelings of neediness and pain so that he doesn't have to feel his own feelings of neediness and pain.

Total self-love and acceptance is the only foundation for happiness and the love of others.

It tells you that you are responsible for other people's feelings and behavior; it may even tell you that your behavior made someone else sick, as when a father says, "Look what you kids have done, you've made your mother sick!" This results in your having a grandiose sense of responsibility. Toxic guilt is one of the most damaging ways your preschool inner child was wounded.

gave half-a-crown to a beggar because I saw him yawn; he was a fellow-sufferer.

They also thought to drive away his distemper by harsh and surly carriages to him; sometimes they would deride, sometimes they would chide, and sometimes they would quite neglect him.

Break a person's heart and you become a kind of amnesiac killer. All the empathy you possess is momentarily held in abeyance while you address yourself wholeheartedly to your own emotional survival. You're just doing what you have no choice but to do. You're just living. Then it's over, and standing amid the wreckage of your life you remember.