Quotes About Empathy

Y la mejor manera de encontrar las debilidades del jefe no es por medio de espías, sino de un fuerte abrazo. Detras de una fachada amigable, aun servil, puedes observar a tus enemigos, lograr que se sinceren y delaten. Llega a lo más hondo; piensa como ellos. Una vez que descubras su vulnerabilidad —

Los errores suelen perdo- narse, pero el desprecio nunca. Nues- tro orgullo lo recuerda para siem- pre. (Lord Chesterfield, 1694-1773)

This should not upset you but liberate you. The book will teach you to stop taking personally their insinuating comments, shows of coldness, or moments of irritation. The more you grasp this, the easier it will be to react not with your emotions but rather with the desire to understand where their behavior might come from.

words have that insidious ability to be interpreted according to the other person's mood and insecurities.

Nunca critiques abiertamente a la gente; esto la hará sentirse insegura, y se resistirá al cambio. Siembra ideas, insinúa sugerencias.

clave para hacer que tus víctimas se sientan cómodas es ser su reflejo, adaptarse a sus estados de ánimo. Las personas son narcisistas; se sienten atraídas por quienes se parecen más a ellas. Hazles sentir que compartes sus valores y gustos, que comprendes su espíritu, y caerán bajo tu hechizo.

Muéstrate abierto a la influencia de los demás, y caerán más fácilmente bajo tu hechizo.

Make understanding people a fun game, the solving of puzzles. It is all part of the human comedy. Yes, people are irrational, but so are you. Make your acceptance of human nature as radical as possible. This will calm you down and help you observe people more dispassionately, understanding them on a deeper level. You will stop projecting your own emotions on to them. All of this will give you more balance and calmness, more mental space for thinking.

Daily Law: Examine the faults you see in others and how they are in you as well.

by embracing the full picture of themselves, their self-love is more real and complete. From this stronger inner position, they can turn their attention outward more often and more easily. This attention goes in one of two directions, and sometimes both.

those misfortunates among us who have been brought down by circumstances beyond their control deserve all the help and sympathy we can give them

Without any visual cues or any action on the part of others, we can place ourselves inside their minds and imagine what they might be thinking.

La gente de tu tipo gravitará hacia ti, se identificará contigo, compartirá tu alegría o tristeza. La atracción debe ser insconsciente, y no han de transmitirla tus palabras sino tu pose, tu actitud.

Pick up a bee from kindness, and learn the limitations of kindness.

Most important of all, do not take pity. Do not enmesh yourself in trying to help. The infector will remain unchanged, but you will be unhinged.

Desperate to win the French over to the American cause and understanding their nature quite well, he had transformed himself into what they had wanted to see in him—the American version of the French spirit and way of life. He was appealing to their notorious narcissism.

The Laws of Human Nature is designed to immerse you in all aspects of human behavior and illuminate its root causes. If you let it guide you, it will radically alter how you perceive people and your entire approach to dealing with them. It will also radically change how you see yourself.

First, the Laws will work to transform you into a calmer and more strategic observer of people, helping to free you from all the emotional drama that needlessly drains you.

We humans are born with a tremendous potential for understanding people on a level that is not merely intellectual. It is a power developed by our earliest ancestors, in which they learned how to intuit the moods and feelings of others by placing themselves in their perspective.

You will need a degree of humility in this process. You can never know exactly what people are thinking and can easily make mistakes, and so you must not rush to judgments but keep yourself open to learning more. People are more complex than you imagine. Your goal is to simply see their point of view better. As you go through this process, it becomes like a muscle that gets stronger the more you exercise it.

If you never expect gratitude from a friend, you will be pleasantly surprised when they do prove grateful.

moving past our usual self-absorption, we can learn to focus deeply on others, reading their behavior in the moment, seeing what motivates them, and discerning any possible manipulative tendencies. Navigating

The Seesaw. Up and down and up and down go the arguers, getting nowhere fast. Get off the seesaw and show them your meaning without kicking or pushing. Leave them at the top and let gravity bring them gently to the ground.

El problema es que, por lo general, estamos demasiado absortos en nosotros mismos: pensamos más en lo que queremos de otras personas que en lo que ellas podrían querer de nosotros.