Quotes About Reactivity

As Buechner says, we are in constant danger of being not actors in the drama of our lives but reactors, "to go where the world takes us, to drift with whatever current happens to be running the strongest.

As long as she was happy and nice, I loved back. But if she was unhappy or upset, I would feel blamed and then argue or distance myself.

Ultimately, it is our mindlessness that imprisons us. We get better and better at being out of touch with the full range of our possibilities, and more and more stuck in our cultivated-over-a-lifetime habits of not-seeing, but only reacting and blaming.

Reacciones como la ira […], cuando se mantienen en el tiempo y dejan de ser emociones para convertirse en estados de ánimo, tienen efectos muy adversos.»

happiness is actually more closely tied to how you perceive and emotionally react to the events and people around you. That's because people who perceive the world as positive or negative will react to it positively or negatively.

We can never be certain about the future and therefore we must continue to be flexible and adaptable so that we can react quickly to the needs of our clients and our market place.

My mother's psychologist says I have an overactive anger switch, but people just keep pissing me off.

My mother's psychologist says I have an overactive anger switch, but people just keep pissing me off.

We won't be able to eliminate the drama in our lives or escape all the crazies. But we can actually learn to live responsively instead of reactively, being positive when others are negative.

Letting off steam always produces more heat than light.

Even more important though, is the stress he places on our ability to create our relationships rather than to merely react to the various people and events that come into our lives. He points out that if we aren't creators, then we are habitual reactors.

affective instability due to a marked reactivity of mood (e.g., intense episodic dysphoria, irritability, or anxiety usually lasting a few hours and only rarely more than a few days) When most people feel bad, they can take steps to feel better.

This is how that reactivity takes place in a flashback. A survivor wakes up feeling depressed. Because childhood experience has conditioned her to believe that she is unworthy and unacceptable in this state, she feels anxious and ashamed. This in turn activates her inner critic to scare her with perfectionistic rants: "No wonder no one likes me. I've got to get my lazy, worthless ass out of bed or I'll end up like that homeless, bag lady in the park!