Quotes About Nurture

There are days I drop words of comfort on myself like falling leaves and remember that it is enough to be taken care of by my self.

If you treat what you value most in life more like a garden and less like a vending machine, you'll probably be happier. (from You Oughta Know By Now)

The key is sensitive encouragement." But

Who loves a garden still his Eden keeps,Perennial pleasures plants, and wholesome harvests reaps.

We ignore the emotional needs of young children at our peril.

You can't give what you don't have.

Because in order to understand trauma we need to understand memory. In order to appreciate how children heal we need to understand how they learn to love, how they cope with challenge, how stress affects them. And by recognizing the destructive impact that violence and threat can have on the capacity to love and work, we can come to better understand ourselves and to nurture the people in our lives, especially the children.

You're not meant to raise children isolated and alone.

In Sandy's case, milk, once associated with nurturing and nutrition, now became the stuff that spilled from her throat, that her mother "refused" as she lay dead. Silverware was now no longer something used to eat your food, but rather something that killed and maimed and horrified. And doorbells—well, that was what had started the whole thing: the ringing of the doorbell had announced the arrival of the killer.

What we call "cuteness" is actually an evolutionary adaptation that helps ensure that parents will care for their children, that babies will get their needs met, and that parents will take on this seemingly thankless task with pleasure.

El cerebro infantil necesita más que palabras y lecciones y actividades organizadas: necesita amor y amistad y la libertad para jugar y soñar despierto.

Resilient children are made, not born. The developing brain is most malleable and most sensitive to experience—both good and bad—early in life.

In order to appreciate how children heal we need to understand how they learn to love, how they cope with challenge, how stress affects them. And by recognizing the destructive impact that violence and threat can have on the capacity to love and work, we can come to better understand ourselves and to nurture the people in our lives, especially the children.

Yes! How were you loved—it makes all the difference. In all the conversations I've had, my experience has been that dysfunction shows up in direct proportion to how you were or were not loved.

Think of the diversity within a small multifamily, multigenerational clan. Children growing up had numerous adults and older children who could model, teach, nurture, discipline, and care for them. Each person in the clan had a unique set of strengths—the right person at the right time. No single person was expected to provide all of the emotional, social, physical, or cognitive needs of the developing child.

The long-term impact of being whupped—then forced to hush and even smile about it—turned me into a world-class people pleaser for most of my life. It would not have taken me half a lifetime to learn to set boundaries and say "no" with confidence had I been nurtured differently.

las fuerzas o las vulnerabilidades genéticas se ven aumentadas o mitigadas en el contexto de las primeras relaciones de un niño.

The key to healthy development is getting the right experiences in the right amounts at the right time.

Our brains develop as a reflection of the world we grow up with. You love others the way you've been loved.

The science of epigenetics has also made it clear that there are two mechanisms by which organisms pass on hereditary information. Those two mechanisms provide a way for scientists to study both the contribution of nature (genes) and the contribution of nurture (epigenetic mechanisms) in human behavior. If you only focus on the blueprints, as scientists have been doing for decades, the influence of the environment is impossible to fathom. (Dennis 2003; Chakravarti and Little 2003)

Tanto para los padres adoptivos como para los que no lo son, el mensaje está claro: los genes de tus hijos reflejan sólo su potencial, no su destino.

A mother's love protects a child with far greater shield than armor.

For him I was like the land, something to care for...well, he loved to make things grow. But he resembled the land more than me. He needed constant cultivation, or the fruit turned wild.

what redeems us as human beings and restores us to our humanity is solicitude for those whom we love.