Quotes About Dependency

F. False self—confused identity. Your self-worth depends on your partner's success or failure. When you're not in a relationship, you feel an inner void. You feel responsible for making your partner happy. You take care of people to give yourself an identity. You wear masks, calculate, manipulate and play games. You act out rigid family roles and/or sex roles. When your partner has a stomachache, you take the antacid.

The very characteristics of childhood I am describing—wonder, dependency, curiosity, optimism—are crucial to the growth and flowering of human life.

The most dominant need that any child has is to gradually move from the complete environmental support of infancy and childhood to the self-support of maturity.

When the inner child has been wounded through neglect of his developmental dependency needs, he either isolates and withdraws or clings and becomes enmeshed.

As the shame internalization process took place in your dysfunctional family, your needs became bound by shame. After a while you no longer knew what you needed. There was no way to learn how to ask for what you wanted. As your dependency needs were violated, you came to believe that you couldn't depend on anyone.

Codependency is a condition wherein one has no inner life. Happiness is on the outside.

Emotional abuse is a form of psychological battering. Psychological battering includes all forms of abuse because victims cannot be physically or sexually violated without also being psychologically battered. Emotional violence is involved in all abuse and causes the neglect of developmental dependency needs.

Having lost heart, they believe they must manipulate in order to get their needs met.

The only way a child can develop a sense of self is through a relationship with another.

The only way a child can develop a sense of self is through a relationship with another. We are "we" before we are "I.

Mourning is the ultimate work of the externalization process. Mourning is the only way to heal our unmet developmental dependency needs. Since we cannot go back in time and be children and get our needs met from our very own parents, we must grieve the loss of our childhood self and our childhood dependency needs. Grief is a complex process that involves a range of human emotions.

we find people who are dependent on something outside of themselves in order to have an identity. These are examples of the dis-ease of co-dependence.

Just as the shame-based parents cannot accept their own weaknesses, wants, feelings, vulnerability and dependency needs, they cannot accept their children's neediness, feelings, weakness, vulnerability and dependency. Firestone writes that the voice is the result of the "parents' deeply repressed desire to destroy the aliveness and spontaneity of the child whenever he or she intrudes on their defenses.

For example, a chronically depressed man who becomes a superachieving executive through his work addiction can feel only when he is working. An alcoholic or drug addict feels high with mood-altering drugs. A food addict feels a sense of fullness and well-being when his stomach is full. Each addiction allows the person to feel good feelings or to avoid painful ones.

You are the reason why I became stronger, but still, you are my weakness.

My Valentine runs on batteries.

It's kind of ironic that in life the person that brings out the best in you and makes you strong, is actually your weakness.

And I hate how much I love you, boy. I cant stand how much I need you.

Oh, my bad...I'm sorry for bothering you. I forgot I only exist when you need me for something.

'Loose my attitude?' It's not an attitude. I'm sick of being unappreciated. I'd love to see where you'd be with out me.

My phone battery can last longer than most relationships these days.

Forgetting your phone at home, it's always the end of the world.

Girlfriend, Boyfriend, Friend, and Family. All of the words have END in them except for family.

Addiction doesn't kill the addict. It kills the family, kids and people who tried to help!