Quotes About Dependency

Although not as exaggerated as the grandiosity of the narcissistically defended child, the codependent child now manifests a measure of grandiosity in her own right—the extraordinary helper.

painful truth that, without outside help, the codependent partner will accommodate to the functional level of the less healthy partner.

But a favor has to be answered by another favor, and the courtesies became a chain that imprisoned us.

As I traveled toward Milan, I discovered that, with Lila set aside, I didn't know how to give myself substance except by modeling myself on Nino. I was incapable of being a model for myself. Without him I no longer had a nucleus from which to expand outside the neighborhood and through the world, I was a pile of debris.

Then he added, in an almost threatening tone: Without these rasping hands, professor, not a chair would exist, or a building, a car, nothing, not even you; if we workers stopped working everything would stop, the sky would fall to earth and the earth would shoot up the sky, the plants would take over the cities, the Arno would flood your fine houses, and only those who have always worked would know how to survive, and as for you two, you with all your books, the dogs would tear you to pieces.

Money gave even more force to the impression that what I lacked she had, and vice versa, in a continuous game of exchanges and reversals that, now happily, now painfully, made us indispensable to each other.

Pour moi, devenir, c'était devenir dans son sillage. Or, je devais recommencer à devenir mais pour moi, en tant qu'adulte, en dehors d'elle.

Sentía tristeza por el derroche, porque estaba obligada a marcharme, porque ella prefería la aventura de los zapatos a nuestras conversaciones, porque sabía ser independiente mientras que yo la necesitaba, porque tenía cosas propias en las que yo no podía entrar.

Carracci's possessions, she, too, was Carracci's possession.

when paula asks one of the women, what she would like, then she would like something for the whole family, for example, a car, in which then the whole family sits, and in which the mother is forever waiting to get a chance to smack the child's fingers, to be able to justify her own presence.

A literature major whom I knew slightly was walking her lame boyfriend around on a leash.

Psycho-analysts usually refer to this process as introjecting a good object; meaning by this that the attachment figure has become part of the individual's inner world, and therefore someone on whom he can rely even though the person concerned is not actually present.

Many think the language is nice or pretty—like the song of a bird in the forest. There's a sense that the forest and especially humans don't depend on that sound for anything; it doesn't fill bellies or help people lead longer, healthier, happier lives. But nothing could be further from the truth. Physical, mental, and spiritual health are deeply intertwined.

Abel lifted her up - another gesture from former times, from when she'd been smaller - and carried her to the bathroom to find the Band-aid. Suddenly, Anna thought, she's growing up. One day, she'll be too big to be carried around like that. One day, he won't be able to hold onto her, she'll move on, and he'll be left all alone. Maybe the responsibility for Micha is more of an anchor than a burden. A lifeboat. A wooden plank to hold onto so you don't drown.

La humanidad posee cuatro cosas que no son útiles en el mar: Timones, anclas, remos y el temor de hundirse.

You are fastened to them and cannot understand how, because they are not fastened to you.

He who holds me by a thread is not strong; the thread is strong.

Mentally weak has a tendency to lick the finger to stick the saliva onto it to flip the page or count the paper currency as they think that they can't do it without the spit.

The relationship amongst materialistic people is neither symbiotic not synergistic, but only parasitic in nature.

Immature love says: "I love you because I need you." Mature love says: "I need you because I love you." Erich Fromm

Hunger knows no friend but its feeder.

When the growing individual finds that he is destined to remain a child for ever, that he can never do without protection against strange superior powers, he lends those powers the features belonging to the figure of his father." Thus, God is often depicted as someone to be feared as well as loved.

Needing and loving are two different things.

The country remains dependent on oil. But as we are now learning, oil is becoming increasingly scarce.