Quotes About Avoidance

Once an emotion is toxically shame bound, one feels numb. The emotional avoidance is sealed by learning to avoid the avoidance.

Perfectionism or Anomie. Always be right in everything you do. The perfectionist rule always involves an imposed measurement. The fear and avoidance of the negative is the organizing principle of life. The members live according to an externalized image. No one ever measures up. In the less-than-human family, there are no rules—the children have no structure to guide them.

The fact is, we really never went through the pain. We developed a fantasy bond and used our primary ego defenses to avoid the anger, hurt and pain of our abandonment. Then we avoided our avoidance with our rigid roles and characterological defenses. We missed expressing the feelings at the crucial time.

For example, a chronically depressed man who becomes a superachieving executive through his work addiction can feel only when he is working. An alcoholic or drug addict feels high with mood-altering drugs. A food addict feels a sense of fullness and well-being when his stomach is full. Each addiction allows the person to feel good feelings or to avoid painful ones.

I've discovered something interesting, she said. If you ever want to avoid somebody, this city's as small as a postage stamp. But if you ever really want to run into somebody, if you really hope and pray, it's as big as an ocean.

Enthusiasm increases a person's accomplishments while apathy increases his alibis.

Procrastination is the fertilizer that makes difficulties grow.

Pain, loss and separation are inevitable on the path of love, and the only way of avoiding them is by deciding not to take that path at all. In order not to suffer, you have to renounce love. It was like putting out your own eyes in order not to see the bad things in life.

I cant be around people that youve hooked up with.

Some feelings don't really go away, they just get avoided.

Don't feel special I only keep your number in my phone so I know not to answer when you call.

Alcohol is not the answer to all questions.. But, if you don't get the answer it helps you to forget the question.

Deadbeat dads simply do not like the rules and many will move, remarry, change names, and work for cash to avoid any and all parental responsibility.

That 'Aww crap!' moment when your mom is almost home and you look around and haven't done anything she told you to do.

When I say, 'It's a long story,' it usually means I just don't want to tell you.

The only time I open my books to do homework is when I can't think of anything else to do.

It's a very American thing to hide away from death.

Most people would die sooner than think in fact they do.

Everyone is terrified of death, as we spend our whole lives avoiding it.

To live is to die. To die is to live. To avoid death, is to avoid living.

I've adopted the guideline of Warren Buffett's partner, Charlie Munger, who says "I wanna know where I'll be when I die - so I never go there.

The desire to break the silence with constant human noise is, I believe, precisely an avoidance of the sacred terror of that divine encounter.

Some have sought to avoid suffering by avoiding desire. Thus they have only small desires and small sufferings, poor fools.

I have no desire to ever talk to Sean Penn.