Quotes About Avoidance

A blown brain will reach for any sideshow to dodge the main event.

She was the crisis handler, he was the evader.

we rarely see what we prefer to overlook.

But we rarely see what we prefer to overlook.

In a world of scarcity, opportunities don't present themselves in bunches, and the decisions people face are between approach and avoidance, acceptance or rejection.

It boots nothing to avoid his snares, for they are ever beset with other snares

The reality was that in America the truly rich had regiments of lawyers and accountants with numberless schemes to avoid taxes.

The constructive alternative to fusion is defusion, and the preferred alternative to experiential avoidance is acceptance.

Psychological rigidity is at its core an attempt to avoid negative thoughts and feelings caused by difficult experiences, both when they occur and in our memory of them.

Now let's look at the commitmentphobic's job pattern. Basically, he can't bear to feel trapped there either.

When failure is demonized, people will try to avoid it at all costs—even when it represents nothing more than a temporary setback.

it's a point of pride whenever you can point to the ways in which you're avoiding your progenitor's defective character. I'm not like him becomes your mantra

The secret to your existence is right in front of you. It manifests itself as all those things you know you should do, but are avoiding.

If you remember that something bad happened, and you can figure out why, then you can try to avoid that bad thing happening again. That's the purpose of memory. It's not "to remember the past." It's to stop the same damn thing from happening over and over.

Why avoid, when avoidance necessarily and inevitably poisons the future? Because the possibility of a monster lurks underneath all disagreements and errors.

not thinking about something you don't want to know about doesn't make it go away.

But not thinking about something you don't want to know about doesn't make it go away. You

Why avoid, when avoidance necessarily and inevitably poisons the future? Because the possibility of a monster lurks underneath all disagreements and errors. Maybe the fight you are having (or not having) with your wife or your husband signifies the beginning of the end of your relationship. Maybe your relationship is ending because you are a bad person.

If you wait instead until what you are refusing to investigate comes a-knocking at your door, things will certainly not go so well for you. What you least want will inevitably happen—and when you are least prepared. What you least want to encounter will make itself manifest when you are weakest and it is strongest. And you will be defeated.

Vice is easy. Failure is easy, too. It's easier not to shoulder a burden. It's easier not to think, and not to do, and not to care. It's easier to put off until tomorrow what needs to be done today, and drown the upcoming months and years in today's cheap pleasures. As the infamous father of the Simpson clan puts it, immediately prior to downing a jar of mayonnaise and vodka, "That's a problem for Future Homer. Man, I don't envy that guy!"66

Memory is not a description of the objective past. Memory is a tool. Memory is the past's guide to the future. If you remember that something bad happened, and you can figure out why, then you can try to avoid that bad thing happening again. That's the purpose of memory. It's not "to remember the past". It's to stop the same damn thing form happening over and over.

What do you do to avoid conflict, necessary though it may be? What are you inclined to lie about, assuming that the truth might be intolerable? What do you fake?

There is another fundamental problem, too, with the life-lie, particularly when it is based on avoidance. A sin of commission occurs when you do something you know to be wrong. A sin of omission occurs when you let something bad happen when you could do something to stop it. The former is regarded, classically, as more serious than the latter—than avoidance. I'm not so sure.

Nuestros sistemas de ansiedad son sumamente prácticos y asumen que cualquier cosa de la que huyes es peligrosa.