Quotes from Tedd Tripp

We are complex combinations of strengths and weaknesses. There are things that we can do with ease. There are other things that are painful and arduous.

All behavior is linked to attitudes of the heart. Therefore, discipline must address attitudes of the heart. This

He who ignores discipline despises himself, but whoever heeds correction gains understanding" (Proverbs 15:32).

Pleasant words grease the wheels of instruction.

A young child does not give proper weight to words alone. His attention is secured when those words are punctuated by a sound spanking.

Our central objective in instruction, discipline and correction is heart change, not behavior change. This profoundly shapes how we view consequences.

Parenting is not just child-care. We can have a vision for formative instruction that will transform our homes and communities.

The self-love and self-trust our culture proffers always turns the heart away from God.

He who ignores discipline despises himself, but whoever heeds correction gains understanding" (Proverbs

You must regard parenting as one of your most important tasks while you have children at home. This is your calling. You must raise your children in the fear and admonition of the Lord. You cannot do so without investing yourself in a life of sensitive communication in which you help them understand life and God's world.

Come along with us .… we will get all sorts of plunder .… throw in your lot with us … we will share a common purse … " What is the pitch to the young person in Proverbs 1? It is belonging. The attraction of giving in to the wicked is camaraderie. The appeal is to a very human need to share mutuality with others. Your kids need to belong.

Give your children big truths they will grow into rather than light explanations they will grow out of.

All behavior is linked to attitudes of the heart. Therefore, discipline must address attitudes of the heart.

The finest art of communication is not learning how to express your thoughts. It is learning how to draw out the thoughts of another.

The law of God is not easy for natural man. Its standard is high and cannot be achieved apart from God's supernatural grace. God's law teaches us our need of grace. When you fail to hold out God's standard, you rob your children of the mercy of the gospel.

Some people think listening is what you do between opportunities to say something. During listening times they don't listen at all. They are deciding what to say. Don't be such a parent. The Proverbs remind you that the fool does not delight in understanding, but in airing his own opinion (Proverbs 18:2).

The most powerful way to keep your children from being attracted by the offers of camaraderie from the wicked is to make home an attractive place to be.

You should encourage your children to see the needs of those around them.

I have spoken to many parents who feared they were producing little hypocrites who were proud and self-righteous. Hypocrisy and self-righteousness is the result of giving children a keepable law and telling them to be good. To the extent they are successful, they become like the Pharisees....The genius of Phariseeism was that it reduced the law to a keepable standard of externals that any self-disciplined person could do. In their pride and self-righteousness, they rejected Christ.

Proverbs 12:15–16 says: "The way of a fool seems right to him, but a wise man listens to advice. A fool shows his annoyance at once, but a prudent man overlooks an insult.

We give them material things and take delight in their delight in possessions. Then we hope that somewhere down the line they will see that a life worth living is found only in knowing and serving God.

The purpose for your authority in the lives of your children is not to hold them under your power, but to empower them to be self-controlled people living freely under the authority of God.

We cannot impress our children with the fame of God's name if we are not impressed with him ourselves. If

The parent can change his mind in the context of respectful appeal, but not in the presence of blatant rebellion.