Quotes from Stephen Arterburn

Our faithfulness to Christ is clearly and unmistakably demonstrated by the degree to which we have accepted and granted forgiveness.

Upon my eighteenth birthday I was given three choices: 1. Join the church, and live at home. 2. Move out and live on my own. 3. Move into the single men's home.

Christ says he is the Way, the Truth, and the Life. We want to be sure he is with us in everything we do, especially as we're trying to bring anything like Christ's healing to a relationship.

Being truthful to a degree worthy of God means so much more than simply not lying. It means we take the time to discern what the truth is.

Even though God may be unknown to us, he is near and willing to reveal himself. God has promised that "if you look for me in wholeheartedly, you will find me" (Jeremiah 29:13). Turning over our will involves accepting God as he is instead of insisting on creating him in our own image. When we seek God with an open heart and mind, we will find him.

Living a regret-free life means being honest about everything you did to help create your regrets and honest about how you felt when someone else was hurtful to you.

highest purpose as humans and followers of Jesus—is to be a conduit of God's love.

Let's not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don't give up" (Galatians 6:9).

Holiness is not some nebulous thing. It's a series of right choices. You needn't wait for some holy cloud to form around you. You'll be holy when you choose not to sin. You're already free from the power of sexual immorality; you are not yet free from the habit of sexual immorality, until you choose to be—until you say, "That's enough! I'm choosing to live purely!

We become the kings of stubborn resistance in our own little worlds. We get into ruts that lead us down paths that cause nothing but pain and end with our hitting a wall. Yet we will do everything but try something different.

God asks today's Christian wives this question: "Why do you call me 'Lord, Lord' and not do what I say?" (Luke 6:46). As

Macho men, without their grief, must find a way to gain power and control over their environment. They have a unique way of rationalizing and justifying their behavior and violations of others

Only when you know where you are can you have an idea of where you want to go.

Jesus on the cross stands forever as the greatest possible symbol of love in action.

Like Shelley, in order to change and engage the process of trust building, I, too, needed to come to terms with the truth that God was ultimately the change agent and healer. He is the true trust builder. He is the master architect and artist shaping any sculpture. If both Shelley and I lean on him for our journey of rebuilding our relationship, then neither of us must lean against each other.

For we love as God loves us; filled with the love of the Lord, we love others in the only way love ever acts.

Affection is love shown.

The answer is the answer to so many of our questions about how best to act in an emotionally tense situation: Withdraw from the conflict.

Words can be the tonic that kills regrets before they have a chance to grow.

Respect is crucial to relational health.

Is this the time to receive money and clothing, olive groves and vineyards, sheep and cattle, and male and female servants?

Temptations are inevitable, but what sorrow awaits the person who does the tempting.

If two people are honest with each other, there is no kind of woe they can't survive.

19But Joseph replied, "Don't be afraid of me. Am I God, that I can punish you? 20You intended to harm me, but God intended it all for good.