Quotes from Brooke Castillo

You need to remember the best legacy you can give your kids is an example of a life well lived. They may listen to what you say, but they will do what you do. If you tell them to take care of yourself but you don't do it yourself, what kind of message are you sending?

if you are practicing negative thoughts, you are getting better at thinking them. If

Are you creating your thoughts? Or, are your thoughts creating you?

You can either make your habits or your habits can make you.

Whatever you're practicing—you are getting better at. If

We have been trained not to waste food in the garbage, but to waste it on our bodies. Either way it is wasted. In one way, we just carry the waste with us.

It was always meant to happen that way.

I was willing to suck at it. When I train new coaches I have to remind them regularly to be willing to be imperfect, be willing to make mistakes, and be willing to do a terrible job. It really is the only way we can improve and get better at anything.

Anyone who has grown spiritually, mentally or physically knows that growth is not found in comfort. My

Stop right now and watch your thoughts for a minute. Does this come naturally to you? Have you been practicing observing yourself from a place of compassion? Do you know where your mind tends to go when it is not being managed? I

The pain seems so much more difficult than the cookies. But it's not. The pain covered in cookies becomes pain covered in fat covered in more pain. Pain is hard. To go through and feel the emotion instead of avoiding/distracting takes courage. Sometimes

We refuse things we don't want all the time. It is not hard to do. We just say no. This is what I recommend we do with the negative thoughts that appear in our minds. Just refuse the thought. "No, thank you, not today. That thought doesn't feel good." No

You aren't good enough." "No, thanks." "You know you aren't going to be able to pull this off." "No, thanks." "You aren't really good at this." "No, thanks." "You should join the PTA." "Seriously, no." "You are the luckiest girl in the world." "Don't mind if I do.

The true measure of a man is in how much it takes to discourage him." I

thought (the cause), we end up back with the same spin cycle and same results over and over again.

The true measure of a woman is in how much it takes to discourage her." I

more importantly, they learn that they are the one in control of their interior experience and how they feel. They learn that discouragement is a feeling caused by a thought—not an inevitable result of working towards something they want. I

Sometimes just showing up for someone else is good enough. I

I have enough in this moment, and I love wanting more from a place of enough. Wanting is only exhausting when we believe we can't have what we want or that if we don't have it, we can't be happy.

Instead of trying to "have" fun, focus on "being" fun. I

But happiness is something you can create or access. Being kind to yourself and having compassion for yourself can connect you to yourself and the happiness that is already residing within you. You cannot go on a path of self-criticism and expect to find joy at the end.

I did not ask her to go from disliking her sister to loving her sister. I asked her to try to go from disliking her sister to feeling neutral about her sister. To do this for her own sake, so she didn't have to feel the unpleasant feeling of disliking someone. She did. Her thought changed from: "My sister is unreasonable." To: "My sister doing what my sister does." She felt relief. Isn't

Trying to control other people and what they think is impossible. We can barely control what we think, how do we expect to control what others think? And

You Can't Get Enough… of Something You Don't Really Want I first heard this from one of my favorite authors, Geneen Roth. She was talking about binge eating and describing why we keep eating huge amounts of food beyond fullness and sometimes even beyond feeling sick. She explained: We are trying to get something we desperately want, from something that can't give it to us. In