Quotes from Helen Fisher

We all have restlessness in long-term relationships.

I can't conceive of caring more about my president than my own partner.

A lot of people head into courtship looking for fireworks. Don't pass up a chance by dumping someone after a first date because you don't feel the fireworks. The fireworks can happen at any time and be maintained.

For so many generations, a woman's only career path was to marry well and to marry up. Those days have changed.

When people tell you to walk a certain way, it's like not thinking of a purple tomato. You can't not do it.

There's every reason to think SSRIs blunt your ability to fall and stay in love.

You can get into a very fancy car and know everything about the engine, but when you drive in that car, you feel that rush. In the same way, I think the more you know about love, the more you can enjoy it. And knowing about your personality type, who you are and what kind of person you're dealing with gives you a great leg up.

Along with our many human propensities, we evolved a huge cerebral cortex with which we make decisions.

When somebody leaves Match.com or Chemistry.com, they ask you why you left. One box you can check is, 'I found somebody.' Between 15 and 20 percent of people check that box.

In general, men are wired to notice obvious signs that convey interest in mating - a warm smile, for example - and ignore other subtleties, like if your lipstick is faded.

Men couldn't care less if your strands are perfectly styled and neat. In fact, he might like you more with some wildness or bedhead, since it shows you're carefree and relaxed.

Men don't need linguistic talent; they just need courage and words.

It's almost as if men who get tribal tattoos are trying to signal that they are dangerous, they're to be respected, and they're powerful.

A woman of 40 or 50 or 60 can take estrogen replacements, get facelifts, spend her money in bars.

The brain was not built to walk into a bar, where you know nobody, and start a conversation. That's not the way humanity has courted.

When chimps threaten, they open their mouth and show their teeth. It's a little like waving a knife in front of you. It's very primitive, and therefore bizarre.

There's more than one person on the planet. When you're madly in love, that's not what you think.

I suspect privacy is a very new concept to humanity.

Of all the foods we share, there is nothing more primordial than meat. It's no surprise that meat-eaters still want a partner who will give, receive and share this primordial symbol of a budding partnership.

The women's movement is just a symptom of basic changes in the economy that are favoring women.

Like most animals, we're wired to associate height with power.

Romantic love allows you to focus mating energy. Attachment sustains that relationship as long as necessary to raise your baby.

Most of us make up our minds in the first three minutes of meeting someone whether there's a potential for a relationship.

A Rolex watch or an expensive car are the things guys often use to show status, wealth, and basic desirability.