Quotes from Daniel Goleman

These regions very likely underlie what traditional texts see as the root causes of suffering—attachment and aversion—where the mind becomes fixated on wanting something that seems rewarding or on getting rid of something unpleasant.

Our journey begins in Part One with new discoveries about the brain's emotional architecture that offer an explanation of those most baffling moments in our lives when feeling overwhelms all rationality. Understanding the interplay of brain structures that rule our moments of rage and fear—or passion and joy—reveals

Quisiera imaginar que, algún día, la educación incluirá en su programa de estudios la enseñanza de habilidades tan esencialmente humanas como el autoconocimiento, el autocontrol, la empatía y el arte de escuchar, resolver conflictos y colaborar con los demás.

un ataque de rabia podía suponer la diferencia entre la vida y la muerte, la facilidad con la que, hoy en día, un niño de trece años puede acceder a una amplia gama de armas de fuego ha terminado convirtiendo a la rabia en una reacción frecuentemente desastrosa

porque constituye el vínculo entre los sentimientos, el carácter y los impulsos morales.

Podríamos decir que quienes se hallan a merced de sus impulsos –quienes carecen de autocontrol– adolecen de una deficiencia moral porque la capacidad de controlar los impulsos constituye el fundamento mismo de la voluntad y del carácter. Por

If the heart wanders or is distracted," advised Francis de Sales (1567–1622), a Catholic saint, "bring it back to the point quite gently . . . and even if you did nothing during the whole of your hour but bring your heart back . . . though it went away every time, your hour would be very well-employed.

Such self-awareness would seem to require an activated neocortex, particularly the language areas, attuned to identify and name the emotions being aroused. Self-awareness is not an attention that gets carried away by emotions, overreacting and amplifying what is perceived. Rather, it is a neutral mode that maintains self-reflectiveness even amidst turbulent emotions.

Good work requires enthusiasm, ethics, and excellence.

emotional and rational minds are semi-independent faculties, each, as we shall see, reflecting the operation of distinct, but interconnected, circuitry in the brain.

la raíz de la cólera se asienta en la vertiente beligerante de la respuesta de lucha-o-huida

An altered trait—a new characteristic that arises from a meditation practice—endures apart from meditation itself.

el detonante universal del enfado sea la sensación de hallarse amenazado.

ser consciente de uno mismo significa «ser consciente de nuestros estados de ánimo y de los pensamientos que tenemos acerca de esos estados de ánimo».

Cualquiera puede enfadarse, eso es algo muy sencillo. Pero enfadarse con la persona adecuada, en el grado exacto, en el momento oportuno, con el propósito justo y del modo correcto, eso, ciertamente, no resulta tan sencillo. Aristóteles, Ética a Nicómaco.

These two minds, the emotional and the rational, operate in tight harmony for the most part, intertwining their very different ways of knowing to guide us through the world.

Authoritative leaders mobilize people toward a vision. Affiliative leaders create emotional bonds and harmony. Democratic leaders build consensus through participation. Pacesetting leaders expect excellence and self- direction. Coaching leaders develop people for the future. And coercive leaders demand immediate compliance.

We catch feelings from one another as though they were some kind of social virus.

For the Stoics, one key was seeing that our feelings about life's events, not those events themselves, determine our happiness; we find equanimity by distinguishing what we can control in life from what we cannot.

data science requires more than math skills: it also takes people who have a wide-ranging curiosity, and whose innovation is guided by their own experience—not just data.

What can we change that will help our children fare better in life?

Attunement to others demands a modicum of calm in oneself.

An artful critique focuses on what a person has done and can do rather than reading a mark of character into a job poorly done. As Larson observes, "A character attack—calling someone stupid or incompetent—misses the point. You immediately put him on the defensive, so that he's no longer receptive to what you have to tell him about how to do things better.

What typically escalates to conflict begins, as Vargo puts it, with "not communicating, making assumptions, and jumping to conclusions, sending a 'hard' message in ways that make it tough for people to hear what you're saying." Students