Quotes from Brene Brown

creativity is the mechanism that allows learning to seep into our being and become practice.

I define narcissism as the shame-based fear of being ordinary.

Compassion is a daily practice and empathy is a skill set that is one of the most powerful tools of compassion.

When we become more loving and compassionate with ourselves and we begin to practice shame resilience, we can embrace our imperfections. It is in the process of embracing our imperfections that we find our truest gifts: courage, compassion, and connection.

We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honor the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect,

it gives us the power of understanding and meaning.

in order to deal with shame, some of us move away by withdrawing, hiding, silencing ourselves, and keeping secrets. Some of us move toward by seeking to appease and please. And some of us move against by trying to gain power over others, by being aggressive, and by using shame to fight shame

Alejarnos de las personas a las que conocemos y queremos por el hecho de apoyar a unos desconocidos a los que en realidad no conocemos, apenas creemos y desde luego no queremos, y que con toda seguridad no estarán ahí para acompañarnos a quimioterapia o traernos comida cuando nuestros hijos estén enfermos... ese es el lado oscuro de la segregación. La familia es precisamente el grupo que la mayoría hemos escogido para gestionar nuestra vida, no para excluirlo de ella.

Pain is unrelenting. It will get our attention. Despite our attempts to drown it in addiction, to physically beat it out of one another, to suffocate it with success and material trappings, or to strangle it with our hate, pain will find a way to make itself known. Pain will subside only when we acknowledge it and care for it.

To be on my list, you have to be what I call a "stretch-mark friend"—our connection has been stretched and pulled so much that it's become part of who we are, a second skin, and there are a few scars to prove it. We're totally uncool with each other.

We get stuck and defined by setbacks, disappointments, and failures, so instead of spending resources on clean-up to ensure that consumers, stakeholders, or internal processes are made whole, we are spending too much time and energy reassuring team members who are questioning their contribution and value.

We need support. We need folks who will let us try on new ways of being without judging us. We need a hand to pull us up off the ground when we get kicked down in the arena. And if we live a courageous life, that will happen.

Shame enters for those of us who experience anxiety because not only are we feeling fearful, out of control, and incapable of managing our increasingly demanding lives, but eventually our anxiety is compounded and made unbearable by our belief that if we were just smarter, stronger, or better, we'd be able to handle everything. Numbing here becomes a way to take the edge off of both instability and inadequacy.

Laughter is a spiritual form of communing; without words we can say to one another, "I'm with you. I get it.

I've walked into a restaurant and seen two parents on their cell phones while their kids are busy texting or playing video games. What's the point of even sitting together?

Boredom is your imagination calling to you.

Too much shame and blame, not enough accountability and learning.

the self-compassion seat is for us. It's a reminder that if we can't cheer ourselves on, we shouldn't expect others to do it. If we don't make our values priorities, we can't ask others to do it for us.

The only true currency in this bankrupt world is what you share with someone else when you're uncool.

The Heart of Daring Leadership 1. You can't get to courage without rumbling with vulnerability. Embrace the suck. 2. Self-awareness and self-love matter. Who we are is how we lead. 3. Courage is contagious. To scale daring leadership and build courage in teams and organizations, we have to cultivate a culture in which brave work, tough conversations, and whole hearts are the expectation, and armor is not necessary or rewarded.

O crédito pertence ao homem que está por inteiro na arena da vida, cujo rosto está manchado de poeira, suor e sangue; que luta bravamente; que erra, que decepciona, porque não há esforço sem erros

We have to own our story and share it with someone who has earned the right to hear it, someone whom we can count on to respond with compassion.

4 skillsets of courage: 1. Rumbling with Vulnerability 2. Living into Our Values 3. Braving Trust 4. Learning to Rise

It takes a lot of courage to show up and be all in when we can't control the outcome. It also takes discipline and self-awareness to understand what to share and with whom. Vulnerability is not oversharing; it is sharing with the people who earn the right to hear our stories and our experiences. Vulnerability is not a weakness; it's our greatest measure of courage." -Brené Brown