Quotes from Brene Brown

El mérito es del hombre que está en el ruedo, con el rostro cubierto de polvo, sudor y sangre; del que lucha valientemente; del que yerra; del que fracasa una y otra vez, porque no hay intento sin error ni fallo; del que realmente se esfuerza por actuar;

Perfectionism is, at its core, about trying to earn approval and acceptance.

Preprosto povedano, upanje se zgodi, ko: - smo sposobni postaviti realisti?ne cilje (vem, kam ho?em); - smo sposobni ugotoviti, kako bomo te cilje dosegli, ter znamo biti prožni in najti druge poti (vem, kako bom dosegel to, vztrajen sem in znam prenesti razo?aranje ter poskusiti znova) in - verjamem vase (zmorem!). Upanje je torej kombinacija postavljanja ciljev, vztrajnosti in vzdržljivosti na poti ter zaupanja v svoje sposobnosti.

The mandate is not to be perfect and raise happy children. Perfection doesn't exist, and I've found that what makes children happy doesn't always prepare them to be courageous, engaged adults.

Perfectionism is a self-destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought: If I look perfect, live perfect, work perfect, and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize the painful feelings of shame, judgment, and blame.

strong back, soft front, wild heart.

In very simple terms, hope happens when: We have the ability to set realistic goals (I know where I want to go). We are able to figure out how to achieve those goals, including the ability to stay flexible and develop alternative routes (I know how to get there, I'm persistent, and I can tolerate disappointment and try again). We believe in ourselves (I can do this!).

El mérito es del hombre que está en el ruedo, con el rostro cubierto de polvo, sudor y sangre; del que lucha valientemente; del que yerra; del que fracasa una y otra vez, porque no hay intento sin error ni fallo;

Like all sympathy, it said, "I'm over here and you're over there. I'm sorry for you and I'm sad for you. AND, while I'm sorry that happened to you, let's be clear: I'm over here." This is not compassion.

perfectionism is more about perception—we want to be perceived as perfect. Again, this is unattainable—there is no way to control perception,

Vsi ob?utimo sramoto. Vsi imamo v seni dobro in slabo plat, teko in svetlobo. A ?e se ne soo?imo z ob?utkom sramu, s tem, kar nas teži, za?nemo verjeti, da je nekaj narobe z nami - da smo slabi, nepopolni, ne dovolj dobri - in kar je še huje, ravnati za?nemo v skladu s temi prepri?anji. ?e želimo živeti z vsem stcem in biti povezani, moramo biti ranljivi. Da bi bili ranljivi, pa moramo postati sramoodbojni.

The secret killer of innovation is shame.

Self-kindness: Being warm and understanding toward ourselves when we suffer, fail, or feel inadequate, rather than ignoring our pain or flagellating ourselves with self-criticism.

Worry is described as a chain of negative thoughts about bad things that might happen in the future.

Perfectionism is addictive because when we invariably do experience shame, judgment, and blame, we often believe it's because we weren't perfect enough.

Da, težko je govoriti o ob?utku sramu. Vendar pogovor o njem ji niti približno tako nevaren kot to, kar istvarjamo s tišino! Vsi poznamo ob?utek sramu. Vse nas je strah govoriti o njem. In manj ko govorimo o njem, bolj ga ob?utimo.

For example, I didn't set out to study shame; I wanted to understand connection and empathy. But if you don't understand how shame can unravel connection in a split second, you don't really get connection. I didn't set out to study vulnerability; it just happens to be the big barrier to almost everything we want from our lives, especially courage. As Marcus Aurelius taught us, "What stands in the way becomes the way.

Carl Jung wrote, "Your vision will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.

They were with me in the arena, fighting for me and with me.

What we know matters, but who we are matters more. Being rather than knowing requires showing up and letting ourselves be seen. It requires us to dare greatly, to be vulnerable. The first step of that journey is understanding where we are, what we're up against, and where we need to go.

The barriers and obstacles to daring leadership are real and sometimes fierce. But what I've learned from both the research and my own life is that as long as we name them, stay curious, and keep showing up, they don't have the power to stop us from being brave.

Common humanity recognizes that suffering and feelings of personal inadequacy are part of the shared human experience

The Do column was brimming with words like worthiness, rest, play, trust, faith, intuition, hope, authenticity, love, belonging, joy, gratitude, and creativity. The Don't column was dripping with words like perfection, numbing, certainty, exhaustion, self-sufficiency, being cool, fitting in, judgment, and scarcity.

Feeling shamed, judged, and blamed (and the fear of these feelings) are realities of the human experience. Perfectionism actually increases the odds that we'll experience these painful emotions and often leads to self-blame: It's my fault.