Quotes from Brene Brown

The most valuable and important things in my life came to me when I cultivated the courage to be vulnerable, imperfect, and self-compassionate.

Perfectionism never happens in a vacuum. It touches everyone around us. We pass it down to our children, we infect our workplace with impossible expectations, and it's suffocating for our friends and families. Thankfully, compassion also spreads quickly. When we're kind to ourselves, we create a reservoir of compassion that we can extend to others. Our children learn how to be self-compassionate by watching us, and the people around us feel free to be authentic and connected.

Of course I know, professionally, that the more entrenched and reactive we are about an issue, the more we need to investigate our responses.

Failure can become nourishment if we are willing to get curious, show up vulnerable and human, and put rising strong into practice.

Yet when we don't risk standing on our own and speaking out, when the options laid before us force us into the very categories we resist, we perpetuate our own disconnection and loneliness. When we are willing to risk venturing into the wilderness, and even becoming our own wilderness, we feel the deepest connection to our true self and to what matters the most.

Where we are on our journey of living and loving with our whole hearts is a much stronger indicator of parenting success than anything we can learn from how-to books.

them—we can only love others as much as we love ourselves. Shame, blame,

childhood experiences of shame change who we are, how we think about ourselves, and our sense of self-worth.

Não importa o que eu faça e quanto ainda fique por fazer, eu sou bom o bastante. Significa deitar todas as noites pensando: Sim, sou imperfeito e vulnerável, às vezes fico com medo, mas isso não muda o fato de que sou corajoso e digno de amor e de aceitação. Os dois primeiros livros são como um "chamado

power-over as working like this: "I will define who you are and then I'll make you believe that's your own definition." This chilling explanation

tired of hustling for our self-worth.

Heroics is often about putting our life on the line. Ordinary courage is about putting our vulnerability on the line. In today's world, that's pretty extraordinary.

Miriam Greenspan, a psychotherapist and the author of Healing Through the Dark Emotions, was interviewed by Jungian therapist Barbara Platek in The Sun Magazine.

When receiving feedback, we can identify a value-supporting behavior or a piece of self-talk to help in the moment. Here's mine: When I'm receiving feedback, and I want to stay aligned with my value of courage, I say to myself, "I'm brave enough to listen.

courage to develop that potential.

Being onstage is comfortable for me because it's my work, but put me in the middle of a cocktail party and you'll find me with a frozen smile, wishing I could curl up under a table in the fetal position.

Another thing I repeat to myself, particularly when I'm sitting across from, or with, someone who does not have great feedback delivery skills, is "There's something valuable here, there's something valuable here.

the "action" part of compassion wasn't making things better or fixing,

Think how powerful it might have been for Elizabeth to hear, "You had such courage to apply for that promotion and even more courage to be honest about how much you wanted it. I'm so proud to be your daughter/son/mentor/friend/parent.

Now I understand the quote from Theodore Roosevelt: "Comparison is the thief of joy.

Shame hates it when we reach out and tell our story. It hates having words wrapped around it—it can't survive being shared. Shame loves secrecy. The most dangerous thing to do after a shaming experience is hide or bury our story. When we bury our story, the shame metastasizes. I

Another reason that shame is so difficult to talk about is vocabulary. We often use the terms embarrassment, guilt, humiliation, and shame interchangeably, when in reality these experiences are very different in terms of biology, biography, behavior, and self-talk, and they lead to radically different outcomes.

No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear." We can't rise strong when we're on the run.

sleep, working out, healthy food, cooking, time off, weekends away, going to church, being present with the kids, a sense of control over our money, meaningful work that doesn't consume us, time to piddle, time with family and close friends, and time to just hang out.