Quotes from Daria Snadowsky

One of the pitfalls of having an ex-boyfriend is that people still pair you together in their memories, and sooner or later someone's bound to mention him. And now that it has happened . . . I can't say I feel nothing. I don't think it's possible to get royally dumped by the only boy I've ever done it with, let alone loved, and then feel nothing when he's brought up in conversation.

Whatever age you are when you're first burned is old enough to lose hope that you'll ever get excited about anybody else.

It's so messed up how little control we have over whether we want somebody.

Nothing makes you get down on yourself and worry that you're undesirable like rejection, so having someone desirable desire you is the ultimate antidote.

I'm positive I wouldn't consider having sex with Guy if I hadn't already had sex beforehand. I always knew I wanted my first time to be with someone I loved and who loved me, which it was . . . but shouldn't I want that for every time? I disagree with what Amy said about how once you go all the way, you can't go back to "everything but." But now that I have done it, it doesn't seem nearly as big a deal to do it again.

Just because the sexes are equal doesn't mean that sex is.

It sucks enough when girlfriends break plans with each other for a boy, but at least that's not against the natural order of things, like when a boy blows off his girlfriend for friends. . . . Or maybe I've had it wrong all along. Since friendships usually outlast relationships, why shouldn't friends receive preferential treatment? Because you don't sleep with your friends!

It's sick how you can be intimate with someone one minute and then be furious with that same person the next.

In the beginning, I wanted his heart. Then I shifted focus to his body. I was never interested in only friendship.

Doing things for someone else is what I love most about relationships, even more than having stuff done for me.

Your love interest becomes the most important thing to you. And if the love is requited, it's the biggest high in the universe, and you'd be fine never being with anyone else. But if this person doesn't want you back, well, you pretty much wish you were dead . . . or that that person dies miserable.

In neuroscience, our textbook showed how the brain scans of people newly in love look a lot like the brain scans of patients with obsessive-compulsive disorder. In each case, your dopamine is suppressing your serotonin.

It goes back to keeping things equal. Friendship feels really demeaning if one person still likes the other more, which is probably what caused the breakup in the first place. It's such a misnomer that 'boyfriend' and 'girlfriend' have the word 'friend' in them. I don't know, Dom. It's screwed up that people who dug each other enough to go out can't at least stay friends afterward. Spoken by a true love virgin.

So it's all right for him to rule out a serious relationship, but it's wrong if I'm not ready to settle for less?

Undressing him reminds me of trying to change a sleepy, uncooperative four-year-old into his pajamas.-Dom

Did things get a lot hotter between you two? A little stove-top stuffing in the kitchen?-Amy

I go back to my desk, flip open my cell, and stare at the keypad. I want to hear his voice so badly, to be connected to him, to ask him why and how and what I can do to make it better. But you can't force someone to love you.

Back in high school, I never understood how Amy could enjoy getting with guys just for the short haul. In a way, though, making out like this is more enjoyable because there's no pressure for me to not do or say anything stupid. What's the worst that can happen if I do? So I'm freer to focus on what I'm feeling, not what he feels about me.

How is it that human anatomy evolved so that something as stupid-looking as a repetitive back-and-forth movement can generate the peak of physical ecstasy?

Some scientists hypothesize that having children is the only reason romantic love came about. It kept couples together long enough to mate and see a baby through infancy.

I wasn't expecting him to light candles or scatter rose petals. But I just made myself infertile for him, so the least he could've done was make the bed.

I can't be happy going out if it's not . . . going anywhere.

Once you've ridden the roller coaster, the Ferris wheel's kinda restricting.

But recalling how my ex had nasty BO after track practice never made me feel better. It seemed disingenuous to hold things against him that before I readily accepted as the price of love.