Quotes from Gay Hendricks

The temptation is strong to remain in the Zone of Excellence; it's where your own addiction to comfort wants you to stay. It's also where your family, friends, and organization want you to stay. You're reliable there, and you provide a steady supply of all the things that family, friends, and organizations thrive on. The problem is that a deep, sacred part of you will wither and die if you stay inside your Zone of Excellence.

What do I most love to do? (I love it so much I can do it for long stretches of time without getting tired or bored.)

There is the relationship between the two of you as real people, and there is the relationship between the two shadows. The shadow is the part of us we do not know about. It is the hidden repository of all our old feelings and patterns. You come into the relationship bringing a shadow with you, as does the other person. If you and the other person do not look into what these shadows contain, your relationship will be between two shadows instead of the two of you as real people.

True independence is not based on fear. It contains within it an ability to be close to others, coupled with a choice to be free and autonomous.

Your capacity expands in small increments each time you consciously let yourself enjoy the money you have, the love you feel, and the creativity you are expressing in the world. As that capacity for enjoyment expands, so does your financial abundance, the love you feel, and the creativity you express. Take

like my body—I may not control the expiration date, but I can certainly influence the quality of the shelf life.

With a strong commitment to inquiring into yourself, the universe does not have to use catastrophes to wake you up.

No one ever went to prison because of bad grammar, but the prisons are full of people who are there because of emotional illiteracy.

This won't last forever, but it's wonderful while it's happening.

A breach of integrity stops the flow of energy, just as a pebble jammed in a garden hose stops the flow of water.

If you want to create vital, long-lasting love, you must become a master of verbal & nonverbal appreciation

One of the hallmarks of an evolved person is the ability to tell the truth with no fear of punishment or expectation of reward

The heart of the matter is that there is nothing the matter with our hearts. It is not love that is to blame. But each of us has resistance to the very love we desire.

Put down the flashlight, pick up the mirror.

Many of you are gripped by the loony idea that your intentions are different from the results you create. It simplifies life enormously the moment you accept that the results you create are your unconscious intentions made visibly manifest.

It's new territory, and I'm learning to live in it. To do that, I need to overcome thousands of years of programming that adversity is a constant requirement of existence. We need to savor our success, first for seconds at a time, then for minutes that grow into months.

Self-criticism and criticizing others are one and the same. In other words, self-blame is part of the same Upper Limit pattern as blaming someone else. Both criticizing yourself and criticizing others are highly addictive and very popular ways of busting up the flow of positive energy.

A close relationship is a powerful light force, and like any strong light it casts a large shadow. When you stand in the light of a close relationship, you must learn to deal with the shadow.

it. I think of the Zone of Genius as a continuous spiral. You go higher and higher every day as you expand your capacity for more love, abundance, and success. It's an upward journey with no upper limit.

Suddenly I realized that it was my job to complete myself through my power of loving me.

Wherever I go, may I learn and love as much as I can in every moment. Wherever I am, may I be open to inspiration and truth.

Simply put, if you have some emotion within you that you don't know how to manage, you seal that emotion away and start trying to manage other people's versions of it.

How am I getting in my own way?

Second, when you say, "I don't have time to do that right now," you're telling a polite lie to avoid saying, "I don't want to do that right now.