Quotes from Esther Perel

In dating, if you say no, your lover goes on to the next person. In marriage, if you say no, the person stays.

Marriage isn't meant to make you happy - it's there because it gives you a life in which you can find happiness.

The attraction of dating is that you don't take yes for granted - - you're fully engaged, there's seductiveness, tension.

Love enjoys knowing everything about you; desire needs mystery.

There is no neediness in desire ... there is no caretaking in desire. Caretaking is mightily loving, [but] it's a powerful anti-aphrodisiac.

The secret to desire in a long-term relationship