Quotes from Virginie Despentes

Men are trapped in a different dichotomy, that which gives them a hard-on must remain a problem. Above all, no reconciliation. Because a peculiar thing about men is that they tend to despise that which they desire, as well as despising themselves for the physical manifestation of that desire.

One has to forget about being sweet, pleasant, and helpful; one has to give oneself permission to publicly dominate the other. One has to manage without the other's approval.

To be called a rapist one has to be a total psycho who ends up in a prison, a serial rapist who slices up cunts with broken bottles, a pedophile who attacks little girls. Because men condemn rape and despise rapists. What they do is always something else.

Men love other men. They are always explaining how much they love women, but we all know they're fibbing. They love each other... They watch each other on the cinema screen, give themselves great roles, think themselves powerful, boast, and can't get enough of being so strong, so brave, and so handsome. They write for each other, congratulate each other, support each other.

Porn is also the method men use to imagine what they would do if they were women, how they would apply themselves to satisfy other men, what good sluts they'd be, what prick-devourers.

I know that what girls do with their own clitorises in private isn't exactly my business, but this indifference to masturbation does bother me: if they don't touch themselves when they're alone, when do women connect with their own fantasies? How familiar are they with what really turns them on? And if you don't know that about yourself, what exactly do you know? What relationship can you have with yourself if you systematically hand your genitals over to someone else?

For men, life is cool with us spending our time trying to understand them. Because great despair has a gender, too.

It wasn't by accident. I consented to become a weaker person.

Una mujer con estilo de puta le interesa a casi todo el mundo.

Life is often a game of two halves: in the first half it lulls you, makes you think you're in control; in the second, when it sees you're relaxed and helpless, it comes around again and grinds you to a pulp.

After a certain age, we do not move on from the dead, we remain in their time, in their company.

Cuanto más escasa es la virilidad de un tipo, más atento está a lo que hacen las mujeres. Y al contrario, cuanta más seguridad tiene un hombre mejor soporta la diversidad de actitudes de las mujeres y su masculinidad.

Without children, you will never be fulfilled as a woman, but bringing up kids in decent conditions is almost impossible: It is essential that women feel like failures--that they be made to feel as if they've mad the wrong choice. We are held responsible for failures that are collective and cross-gender. The weapons used against our gender are specific, but the method can be applied to men too. A good consumer is an insecure consumer.

When the collective unconscious -- via instruments of power such as the media and the entertainment industry -- overestimates motherhood, it is neither out of love for the feminine nor general kindness. The all-virtuous mother prepares the collective body for fascist regression. Power bestowed by a sick state is suspect by nature.

Changer, c'est toujours perdre un bloc de soi. On le sent qui se détache, après un temps d'adaptation. C'est un deuil et un soulagement en même temps.

I find it strange that today, when so many people walk around with tiny computers in their pockets -- cameras, phones, personal organizers, iPods--there exists no object at all to slip into your pussy when you go out for a stroll that will rip up the cock of any fucker who sticks it in there. Perhaps it isn't desirable to make female genitalia inaccessible by force. A woman must remain open, and fearful. Otherwise, how would masculinity define itself?

We don't kill women who've been raped, but we do expect them to have the decency to show that they are damaged goods, that they have been polluted. They may become hookers, or ugly, whatever, as long as they spontaneously exit the marriage market.

Rape is a well-defined political strategy: the bare bones of capitalism, it is the crude and blunt representation of the exercise of power. It designates a ruler, and organizes the rules of the game to allow him to wield his power without restraint.

Jedyna ró?nica miÄ™dzy psychopatÄ… i politykiem - psychopata olewa to, czy stoi po wÅ'aÅ›ciwej stronie. Zabija bez wstÄ™pnych ceregieli, to znaczy nie tracÄ…c czasu na sprowadzanie swojej ofiary do roli potwora. Natomiast politycy robiÄ… to z zachowaniem reguÅ': najpierw propaganda, dopiero potem jatka.

Les femmes autour de moi gagnent effectivement moins d'argent que les hommes, occupent des postes subalternes, trouvent normal d'être sous-considérées quand elles entreprennent quelque chose. Il y a une fierté de domestique à devoir avancer entravées, comme si c'était utile, agréable ou sexy.

Seduction is within the reach of most young women, as long as they agree to play the game, because it mostly consists of reassuring men about their virility by playing the femininity game.

Banning the practice of prostitution within an appropriate legal framework is actively preventing the female class from making a decent living and turning a profit from its very stigmatization.

In [porn] films, the actress has male-type sexuality. To put it bluntly, she behaves exactly like a gay man in a back room. She is shown in the film as always wanting sex, with anyone, in every hole. And she comes every time. As a man in a woman's body would.

When I was hospitalized at the age of fifteen, the psychiatrist asked me why I had made myself so ugly. I thought he had nerve asking me that, since I thought I looked pretty damn cool with red spiky hair, black lips, white lace tights, and outsize army boots. He insisted, was I afraid of being pretty? He said that I had such lovely eyes.