Quotes About Compassion

A menos que "nos tornemos a mudança que desejamos ver acontecer no mundo" (como diria meu avô), nenhuma mudança jamais acontecerá. Infelizmente, estamos todos esperando que os outros mudem primeiro.

A não-violência significa permitirmos que venha à tona aquilo que existe de positivo em nós e que sejamos dominados pelo amor, respeito, compreensão, gratidão, compaixão e preocupação com os outros, em vez de o sermos pelas atitudes egocêntricas, egoístas, gananciosas, odientas, preconceituosas, suspeitosas e agressivas que costumam dominar nosso pensamento.

Do not judge, and you will not be judged. For as you judge others, so you will yourselves be judged

Iam not easily frightened. Not because I am brave but because I know that I am dealing with human beings, and that I must try as hard as I can to understand everything that anyone ever does.

I had a major conflict with what went on in his head, but I've learned that I enjoy human beings more if I don't hear what they think.

If we become skilled at giving ourselves empathy, we often experience in just a few seconds a natural release of energy that then enables us to be present with the other person.

Quanto mais as pessoas que fazem parte de nossa vida tiverem sido acusadas, punidas ou forçadas a sentirem-se culpadas por não fazerem o que os outros pediram, mais provavelmente elas levarão essa bagagem a todo relacionamento posterior e ouvirão em cada solicitação uma exigência.

Resistance, defensiveness, and violent reactions are minimized.

The Sufi poet RUmi once wrote, "Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and right-doing, there is a field. I'll meet you there.

In the world of judgments, our concern centers on "who is what.

We know a speaker has received adequate empathy when (1) we sense a release of tension, or (2) the flow of words comes to a halt.

Likewise, if we find ourselves unable or unwilling to empathize despite our efforts, it is usually a sign that we are too starved for empathy to be able to offer it to others. Sometimes, if we openly acknowledge that our own distress is preventing us from responding empathically, the other person may come through with the empathy we need.

When I behaved in the way which I now regret, what need of mine was I trying to meet?

Hurting people is too superficial.

If we wish for a compassionate response from others, it is self-defeating to express our needs by interpreting or diagnosing their behavior. Instead, the more directly we can connect our feelings to our own needs, the easier it is for others to respond to us compassionately.

What I want in my life is compassion, a flow between myself and others based on a mutual giving from the heart. —Marshall B. Rosenberg, PhD

Our need is for the other person to truly hear our pain.

Saying "thank you" in NVC: "This is what you did, this is what I feel; this is the need of mine that was met.

allowing others the opportunity to fully express themselves before turning our attention to solutions or requests for relief.

We begin to feel this bliss when messages previously experienced as critical or blaming begin to be seen for the gifts they are: opportunities to give to people who are in pain.

I earnestly believe, however, that an important form of self-compassion is to make choices motivated purely by our desire to contribute to life rather than out of fear, guilt, shame, duty, or obligation.

behind all those messages we've allowed ourselves to be intimidated by are just individuals with unmet needs appealing to us to contribute to their well-being.

When we focus on clarifying what is being observed, felt, and needed rather than on diagnosing and judging, we discover the depth of our own compassion

However, the most powerful way to communicate that we are making a genuine request is to empathize with people when they don't agree to the request.