Quotes About Boundaries

Code at the boundaries needs clear separation and tests that define expectations. We should avoid letting too much of our code know about the third-party particulars. It's better to depend on something you control than on something you don't control, lest it end up controlling you.

First, let's consider the notion that using services, by their nature, is an architecture. This is patently untrue. The architecture of a system is defined by boundaries that separate high-level policy from low-level detail and follow the Dependency Rule. Services that simply separate application behaviors are little more than expensive function calls, and are not necessarily architecturally significant.

As useful as services are to the scalability and develop-ability of a system, they are not, in and of themselves, architecturally significant elements. The architecture of a system is defined by the boundaries drawn within that system, and by the dependencies that cross those boundaries.

You don't have to be nice all the time. Get angry once in a while. You're entitled.

Half of your mastery of power comes from what you do NOT do, what you do not ALLOW yourself to get dragged into.

Do not overstep your bounds. Do what you are assigned to do, to the best of your abilities, and never do more. To think that by doing more you are doing better is a common blunder. It is never good to seem to be trying too hard—it is as if you were covering up some deficiency. Fulfilling a task that has not been asked of you just makes people suspicious. If you are a crown-keeper, be a crown-keeper. Save your excess energy for when you are not in the court.

We don't say what we feel even when it would be appropriate, and we fail to set boundaries to people's harmful behavior. We find it hard to ask for a raise or a promotion or the respect due to us. Losing our bold spirit, a positive form of aggression, is losing a deep part of our self, and it is inevitably painful.

Remember: You have only so much energy and so much time. Every moment wasted on the affairs of others subtracts from your strength.

También debes mantener a la gente a prudente distancia, para evitar que te comprenda.

the problem about working with friends is that it confuses the boundaries and distances that working requires.

We all have limitations—our energies and skills will take us only so far. Danger comes from trying to surpass our limits.

Pick up a bee from kindness, and learn the limitations of kindness.

Most important of all, do not take pity. Do not enmesh yourself in trying to help. The infector will remain unchanged, but you will be unhinged.

No matter how hard people try to pull you in, never let your interest in their affairs and petty squabbles go beyond the surface.

Never waste valuable time, or mental peace of mind, on the affairs of others, that is too high a price to pay.

Life is too short to put up with assholes.

Women do not become exhausted they only exhaust others.

There was nothing a woman would not tell you if you kissed her enough.

He isn't a horse, Elayne. You don't own him.

Are you deaf as well as blind, woman? I'm not a carpet to walk over, and I distinctly heard myself speak. If I pinch your bottom, you can slap my face, but until I do, I expect a civil word for a civil word!

Perrin laid a finger across her lips just as she opened her mouth. She bit him—hard—but she did not say anything.

We all make our limits. The thought slid up surprisingly from somewhere. And we set them further out than we have any right.

Some things just shouldn't be talked about, and I don't care if you will be letting that fool gleeman tell any kind of tale he wants. It isn't right or decent." "I never saw or heard or smelled anything that couldn't be talked about," Tam said

You cannot please everyone