Quotes About Boundaries

His weakness was his belief that evil had boundaries

Would you please please please please please please please stop talking?

don't ask me a lot of questions if you don't like the answers

Even when you have learned not to look at families nor listen to them and have learned not to answer letters, families have many ways of being dangerous.

The only thing that could spoil a day was people and if you could keep from making engagements, each day had no limits. People were always the limiters of happiness except for the very few that were as good as spring itself.

Fall for them, but don't let them ruin you.

En esta guerra se hacen muchas tonterías —dijo Agustín—. En esta guerra la idiotez no tiene límites.

Pero incluso cuando uno ha aprendido a no mirar a las familias ni escucharlas ni contestar a las cartas, la familia encuentra algún modo de hacerse peligrosa.

The remedy for "keeping something to oneself" is not "letting it all hang out," which is a modern-day perversion of pervasiveness.

There are no boundaries in this struggle to the death. We cannot be indifferent to what happens anywhere in the world, for a victory by any country over imperialism is our victory; just as any country's defeat is a defeat for all of us.

we may seek to impose severe restrictions upon what, how and when we engage with others so that the risks are statistically minimised.

Und könnte [das Ich] eine Leere, eine Losgelassenheit, eine disparate, gar absurde Schranke auch noch spüren, wenn keine Bewegung in ihm wäre, die an die Schranke stößt? […] Die Akte des Überschreitens selber lassen sich jedenfalls nicht nihilisieren, nicht einmal dort, wo die härteste Gegenutopie: der Tod jedes irdische Dunkel so unermesslich überbietet, unterbietet.

Yet the integrity of the universe is the context in which creativity is best expressed. The canvas does not limit God's creativity but rather celebrates it. The elegant complexity of creation is a beautiful reminder that the creative mind is a disciplined mind, that the creative act is not a struggle to be free of limitations but a demonstration that when we embrace our limitations, creativity has no boundaries.

fear has a direct object, anxiety is fear without an object. We experience anxiety when we feel overwhelmed by life. In order to reduce our anxiety, we often create smaller and smaller boundaries to give us some sense of control over our lives.

Domestic Eroticism is wrapped in a veil of appropriateness

In my work, I see couples who no longer wait for an invitation into their partner's interiority, but instead demand admittance, as if they are entitled to unrestricted access into the private thoughts of their loved ones

We don't like to be intimate alone. Some couples take this one step further, confusing intimacy with control. What passes for care is actually convert surveillance. .. When the impulse to share becomes obligatory, when personal boundaries are no longer respected, when only the shared space of togetherness is acknowledged and private space is denied, fusion replaces intimacy and possession co-opts love.

when two become one—connection can no longer happen. There is no one to connect with. Thus separateness is a precondition for connection: this is the essential paradox of intimacy and sex.

In our efforts to protect ourselves from intimate betrayal, we demand access, control, transparency. And we run the risk of unknowingly eradicating the very space between us that keeps desire alive. Fire needs air.

By telling them not to touch I was mapping a space that would give her room to go after him. That, in turn, would give him the feeling of being desired.

Trouble looms when monogamy is no longer a free expression of loyalty but a form of enforced compliance. Excessive monitoring can set the stage for what Stephen Mitchell calls "acts of exuberant defiance.

The caring, protective elements that foster love often block the unselfconsciousness that fuels erotic pleasure.

When people live on top of each other, there is no isolation to transcend, and they are far less interested in embracing western, middle-class ideals of intimacy. Their lives are entwined enough as it is.

These couples, in their own ways, have chosen to acknowledge the possibility of the third: the recognition that our partner has his or her own sexuality, replete with fantasies and desires that aren't necessarily about us. When we validate one another's freedom within the relationship, we're less inclined to search for it elsewhere.