Quotes About Boundaries

When people become fused—when two become one—connection can no longer happen. There is no one to connect with. Thus separateness is a precondition for connection: this is the essential paradox of intimacy and sex.

Acknowledging the third has to do with validating the erotic separateness of our partner. It follows that our partner's sexuality does not belong to us. It isn't just for and about us, and we should not assume that it rightfully falls within our jurisdiction. It doesn't.

Swinging is a form of consensual adultery. It also accords equal freedom to both partners.

Affairs have a lot to teach us about relationships—what we expect, what we think we want, and what we feel entitled to.

forgiving doesn't mean giving the other a free pass. It's a gift one gives oneself.

When you ask people if they are monogamous, I suggest you ask them first what their definition of monogamy is.

What draws people outside the lines they worked so hard to establish? Why does sexual betrayal hurt so much? Is an affair always selfish and weak, or can it in some cases be understandable, acceptable, even an act of boldness and courage?

One of the powerful attributes of secrecy is its function as a portal for autonomy and control.

All these discussions inevitably raise the thorny question of the nature of our erotic freedom. Do we expect our partners' erotic selves to belong entirely to us? I'm talking about thoughts, fantasies, dreams, and memories, and also turn-ons, attractions, and self-pleasure. These aspects of sexuality can be personal, and part of our sovereign selfhood—existing in our own secret garden.

Not everything needs to be revealed. Everyone should cultivate a secret garden.

De ene mens mag de andere nooit tot middelpunt van zijn leven maken.

PUPIL: I can count to . . . to infinity. PROFESSOR: That's not possible, miss. PUPIL: Well then, let's say to sixteen. PROFESSOR: That is enough. One must know one's limits. Count

the only way to discover the limits of the possible is to go beyond them into the impossible. arthur c. clark

I don't want my friends to be hurt and think I've dropped them but I haven't got time to sit and gossip, I've got things to do and time is precious.

It was too early for me to interact with the living, and in spite of my general fondness for Sera, she still was another entity and thus a toll on my exhausted mind.

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I grinned in spite of the awfulness of being touched without warning.

To use your calendar as a production-planning tool, you must accept responsibility for two things: 1.  You should move toward the active use of your calendar, taking the initiative to fill the holes between the time-critical events with non-time-critical though necessary activities. 2.  You should say "no" at the outset to work beyond your capacity to handle.

Globalization simply means that business knows no national boundaries. Capital and work—your work and your counterparts' work—can go anywhere on earth and do a job.

Everyone must decide for himself what is professional and appropriate here. A test might be to imagine yourself delivering a tough performance review to your friend. Do you cringe at the thought? If so, don't make friends at work. If your stomach remains unaffected, you are likely to be someone whose personal relationships will strengthen work relationships.

People's need to protect their own egos know no bounds. They will lie, cheat, steal, even kill, to do whatever it takes to maintain what we call ego boundries.

I don't let just anyone fine me, you know?

Draw huge, erect phalluses on the primitive hunters.

Dobrze jest ?y? w krainach nieoczywistych, poniewa? ich granice zawieraj? w sobie wi?cej przestrzeni, ni? wskazuje geografia. To s? otch?anie nieznanego, to jest niesko?czona dal domys?ów, uciekaj?cy horyzont wyobra?e? i fatamorgana s?odkich przes?dów, którym nigdy nie sprosta rzeczywisto??.