Quotes About Boundaries

Perhaps your definition of your self-system lacks authentic boundaries. You've erected a precarious structure of personality on unconscious factors over which you have no control. That's why you feel threatened by me.

silencio es la cerca que protege la sabiduría».

You're in love with a man, says Julie, who insists that he can love you only when you're standing in the exact center of whatever room you're in.

He's never once asked for painful personal details, Mark. He'll take what you give him and just nod. He sees and won't cross uninvited this unbroken center-line between your business and his. Keeps his own counsel. Never ever presses. It's one reason he's so universally loved.

What looks like the cage's exit is actually the bars of the cage.

Decide the outer boundaries of the kanban system. It is often best to limit this to the immediate span of political control. Do not force visualization, transparency, and WIP limits on any department that does not volunteer to collaborate.

Let's always love each other, and never be in love with each other.

Its a fine line between love and stalking.

If I'm not telling you something, it's for a reason. Just because you trust me, it doesn't mean I have to automatically trust you. Trust doesn't work like that.

I guess it's a choice we make, she said. What's a choice? I asked. And she said, How much of the world we let in.

Family, like arsenic, works best in small doses...unless you prefer to die.

If you zoom close-if you get really close to someone, if you really get close to yourself-then you lose the other person, you lose yourself entirely. You get so close you can't see anything anymore.

fraught, adj. Does every "I love you" deserve an "I love you too"? Does every kiss deserve a kiss back? Does every night deserve to be spent on a lover? If the answer to any of these is "No," what do we do?

You never get involved in the people's lives? The ones you're inhabiting? I shake my head. You try to leave the lives the way you found them. Yeah. But what about Justin? What made that so different? You, I say.

It's a fine line between love and stalking. I decide to walk it.

Lets always love each other, and never be in love with each other. And I agreed.

That would have been the worst kind of violation, to read you words uninvited.

I try to get the basic facts, not the details. The details can be interesting, but they can also distract me into attachment. The worst thing in the world would be to pretend to know the people whose lives I step through. They cannot be homes to me. They must be hotel rooms.

We thought there was a wall around our story. But what if there were windows?

Now I know: Love isn't so straightforward. It's never a matter of telling yourself to do it and doing it. It's never a matter of someone else telling you to do it and doing it. It can't exist between two people if they can't also feel it exist outside of them, too. It can involve hurt, but it shouldn't make you hurt all the time. Then it's not love. It's a trap disguised as love. -Rhiannon

Wherever she is, whatever she's doing – it's not about you. It's about her. And you have to let it be about her. Sometimes we don't want to be found right away. If we step away, it's because we need to be found on our own terms.

But no relationship should rely on you blocking out the world. The world will always get in.

We have become—although I'd never say this out loud—something like a model couple. The secret? We like each other. I mean, we really like each other. We know when to keep our space and when to share it.

The worst thing in the world would be to pretend to know the people whose lives I step through. They cannot be home to me. They must be hotel rooms.