Quotes About Boundaries

Family, like arsenic, works best in small doses.

I am seeing that I cannot be a part of the music that sets him free.

Love is something you can never get inside of. You might think you're there. Sure. But then you hit the border and realize you've been outside the whole time.

We choose how much of the world we want to let into our lives. Both the beauty of it and the horror of it. There has to be a point of insulation -- but some of us insulate real close right down to our very selves and others insulate wider, let more of the world in.

Will, you can pick your friends, and you can pick your nose, but you can't pick your friends nose.

los hombres son más proclives a dar por terminada una amistad cuando resulta evidente que las relaciones sexuales no forman parte de ésta.

If you can't regulate your own emotional temperature, you'll regulate everyone around you to keep yourself comfortable.

Monogamy operates differently at different levels of differentiation. I didn't know this until I saw it with my clients. We think of monogamy as an ironclad agreement containing no ifs, ands, or buts. But it is really a complex system with rules and dynamics of its own. Differentiation changes monogamy by returning genital ownership to each partner. Emotional Siamese twins act as if their partner's genitals are communal property.

It's unrealistic to live your life within such strict parameters.

The woman had decided that I was a hard-ass, one of those guys who refuse under any circumstances to do anyone a favor. But it's not true. I just prefer that the favor be my idea, and that it leaves me feeling kind rather than bullied and uncomfortable.

I need to touch the person's head again. Experience has taught me that you can do this three times before the head's owner either yells at you or rings for the flight attendant.

friends will be much apart.they will respect more other's privacy than their communion.

Es interesante aceptar sin traumas la idea de decepcionar a los demás, de no hacer lo que esperan de ti.

he was always circumspect . . . and always careful to avoid any relationship which could ever become more than friendship. But

We name mostly in order to control but what is worth loving does not want to be held within the bounds of too narrow a calling. In many ways love has already named us before we can even begin to speak back to it, before we can utter the right words or understand what has happened to us or is continuing to happen to us: an invitation to the most difficult art of all, to love without naming at all.

Once you have made up your mind to drop a person it is most inconsiderate of them not to come within dropping distance.

You can't fix things with a hug, but you can't make them any worse either.

The only thing that survives is love, for it is an energy as enduring as light, which travels outward from its source toward the ever-expanding boundaries

Good fences make good neighbors, and these were apparently good enough that they had not felt the need for razor wire at the top. I crested the fence, threw myself into the yard beyond, fell, rolled to my feet, and ran with the expectation of being garroted by a taut clothesline. I heard panting, looked down, and saw a gold retriever running at my side, ears flapping. The dog glanced up at me tongue rolling, grinning, as though jazzed by the prospect of an unscheduled play session.

So you see, if you fall into a lion's pit, the reason the lion will tear you to pieces is not because it's hungry- be assured, zoo animals are amply fed- or because it's blood thirsty, but because you've invaded it's territory.

The boundaries are not to be blurred. I was sent off, struck by his harshest thunderbolt, excommunication. In his eyes I am no longer a man of the cloth. But I yet feel the Lord's hand holding me up.

Don't you worry about other people's problems.

You want to believe there are limits to what money can make happen, lines it can't cross.

It's a question of what love gives you the right to do.