Quotes About Boundaries

You cannot say 'no' to the people you love, not often. That's the secret. And then when you do, it has to sound like a 'yes'. Or you have to make them say 'no.' You have to take time and trouble.

Recognizing the difference between power and love is difficult if we were raised in a home where power was disguised as love.

Can I really believe I am worth an hour a day? Am I, who have given my life to others, selfish enough to take one hour a day to find myself?

You mustn't let men drive you to mangling the English language, no matter how sweet they are.

She feels like the subject of her sex life is a puppy or a ferret, something she'd never in her right mind let off its leash, but which is now somehow running amok among total strangers.

They were all people whom I either knew too well or whom I didn't wish to know at all...

Some things it is not decent to write of the dead, or prudent to write of the living.

I raised an eyebrow. "I've told you not to talk to hairy strangers, right?" "Define hairy," Byron said, but there was a rare faint smile on his face, and I almost smiled back.

For it is not requisite that a woman should hobble faster than she has strength!

Who can say when subversive play will subvert its own rules? Sometimes a jester's wit might cut too close to the bone and the king would lop off his head. The uncertainty — that straddling of the boundaries of real and unreal — is a source of the peculiar emotional power of subversive play.

What about for your church? What boundaries has the gospel overrun that society fiercely respects?

We don't have a good vocabulary for these experiences. They come in variations and degrees, from a slight apprehension of the strangeness of being to the ravishing dissolution of boundaries called enlightenment. A mystical experience, a peak experience, a blurring or merge between self and other, a liberation from the limits of space and time.

The life of the poem might be extended in ways you cannot know, and continue in a world so far from yours as to be nearly unimaginable. The circle that is the outer edge of your life extends, and goes on extending.

Love one another, push the perimeter of this glorious language. Lastly, please show proper courtesy; open not your neighbor's mail.

By definition, heaven must be independent of the space-time domain because within its boundaries the Second Law of Thermodynamics, the law of universal decay, does not function. The nature of heaven is entirely different from that of an alien beam-ship or any extraterrestrial planet subject to the laws of death and decay.

One of the age-old truths about love is that while it offers unparalleled opportunities for union and the lifting of ego boundaries, it also washes us up on the shores of the loved one's otherness. Sooner or later, love makes us feel inescapably separate.

Many articles and books on creativity encourage us to 'think out of the box' and get rid of all the restrictions on our thinking. The trouble with this advice is that it is almost entirely wrong. It is very difficult to be creative when 'anything goes' and you have no limitations, because it is the limitations that actually encourage creativity.

In spite of what many teachers of 'creative thinking' say, the best way to be creative is not to try to think without limits but to very carefully define what those limits should be.

A closed list is a way of applying limits to our work in order to increase our efficiency.

As soon as you cross your property line, you might as well write off the possibility of getting anything else done that day.

Diane, I've never asked you this before, and as a general rule I try never to mix my private and public life, but I would consider a great honor if you would consider having dinner with me. If this in any way crosses over a line that we have long ago set for our relationship, I will understand. If not, how does eight o'clock sound?

Check that - I've found the end. Nick, please be kind enough to withdraw your head to a reasonable distance from my hindquarters.' -Ajay

I have no way to defend my borders but to expand them,

Until someone says "no" to you, you're not asking for enough.