Quotes About Attachment

Often those who hide their possession from everyone do so only for fear that the loved object will be taken away from them. And their happiness, by this prudent choice of silence, is diminished.

At the very beginning of love, as at its end, we are not exclusively attached to a single beloved: it is the yearning to love, of which that person will be the loved outcome, and later the echo left in the memory, that wanders voluptuously in a place full of charms—sometimes deriving only from contingencies of nature, bodily pleasures, or habitation—interchangeable and interrelated enough for it to feel in harmony with any of them.

But when a belief vanishes, there survives it—more and more vigorously so as to cloak the absence of the power, now lost to us, of imparting reality to new things—a fetishistic attachment to the old things which it did once animate, as if it was in them and not in ourselves that the divine spark resided, and as if our present incredulity had a contingent cause—the death of the gods.

El deseo nos fuerza a amar lo que nos hará sufrir.

The opposite of love isn't hate–it's indifference. And if you hate me, that means you still care.

Porque donde esté vuestro tesoro, allí estará también vuestro corazón»

Some things are rushing into existence, others out of it. Some of what now exists is already gone. Change and flux constantly remake the world, just as the incessant progression of time remakes eternity. We find ourselves in a river. Which of the things around us should we value when none of them can offer a firm foothold? Like an attachment to a sparrow: we glimpse it and it's gone.

To be sure, external things of whatever kind require skill in their use, but we must not grow attached to them; whatever they are, they should only serve for us to show how skilled we are in our handling of them.

back when they had been teenagers who thought love was a noun, a thing you could possess.

Bowlby concluded that in the first 24 months of life, children have an essential need to develop a bond with at least one adult caregiver—usually a parent, and most often the mother. Attachment is different from other relationships in that it is a strong and lasting emotional tie with one particular person, which, if disturbed, can have long-term effects on development.

from ages seven through thirteen I felt a kind of age-loyalty to characters [ Out of the Garden ].

When you're young, you think everything you do is disposable. You move from now to now, crumpling time up in your hands, tossing it away. You're your own speeding car. You think you can get rid of things, and people too--leave them behind. You don't yet know about the habit they have, of coming back.

When you're young, you think everything you do is disposable. You move from now to now, crumpling time up in your hands, tossing it away. You're your own speeding car. You think you can get rid of things, and people too—leave them behind. You don't yet know about the habit they have, of coming back. Time in dreams is frozen. You can never get away from where you've been.

When you're young, you think everything you do is disposable. You move from now to now, crumpling time up in your hands, tossing it away. You're your own speeding car. You think you can get rid of things, and people too—leave them behind. You don't yet know about the habit they have, of coming back. Time in dreams is frozen. You can never get away from where you've been.

She never quite leaves her children at home, even when she doesn't take them along.

I have many weaknesses, and among them is a stubborn determination to keep all my children close to me. I think it stems from the years I had to spend in warfare, when I scarcely saw them at all.

I don't know everything I feel, but I do know this. You mustn't ever want anyone but me, Big Science. If you look at any other girl I'll kill her.

Gli amori nuovi sono pieni di paure, Angela, non hanno un posto nel mondo e non hanno capolinea.

Non mi prendere mai sul serio quando ti dico di lasciarmi. Tienimi, ti prego, tienimi. Vieni quando ti pare, una volta al mese, una volta all'anno, ma tienimi...».

I'd cut up my heart for you to wear if you wanted it.

I loved something I made up, something that's just as dead as Melly is. I made a pretty suit of clothes and fell in love with it. And when Ashley came riding along, so handsome, so different, I put that suit on him and made him wear it whether it fitted him or not. And I wouldn't see what he really was. I kept on loving the pretty clothes—and not him at all.

The transitional object itself described by Winnicott (1953) is a monument to the need for this contact with the mother's body, which is so touchingly expressed in the infant's insistent preference for an object which is lasting, soft, pliable, warm to the touch, but especially in the demand that it remain saturated with body odors.1. .

CHAPTER 7 The Fourth Subphase: Consolidation of Individuality and the Beginnings of Emotional Object Constancy FROM the point of view of the separation-individuation process, the main task of the fourth subphase is twofold: (1) the achievement of a definite, in certain aspects lifelong, individuality, and (2) the attainment of a certain degree of object constancy.

the phenomena of the reunion—